Who is teaching what??

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Few years back, I saw an advertisement on TV… It really shook me… the content of the advertisement was, the phone rings… a young girl of 8 – 9 years picks up the phone… The Caller asked “Can I talk to your father?”… The little girl replied, “May I know who you are?” The caller told his name… The girls puts the caller on hold… runs towards her father… tells that Mr. XYZ called and wishes to talk to you… The father replied… “Go and say him that I am not at home”…  The advertisement pauses here… Till now… very few people would have noticed something wrong in this advertisement… The moral of the advertisement was to make an awareness… that the father is teaching his daughter how to lie…


After watching this advertisement, I started observing the behaviors adopted by the kids due to their parents’ behaviors… Sooner or later, I met a cousin of mine, his daughter was of 3 – 4 yrs… Once I went to a shop with him and the shopkeeper offered a chocolate to the girl… The girl wanted to take it but refused to take it, until her father approved it… and her father was very proud that his daughter does everything with his approval… After few days, the same family visited our home and my sister offered the girl a toffee… and the girl took it and whispered in my sister ears… “Don’t tell my dad”… Just imagine… A four year old is getting trained since her childhood, how to hide things from her father… and what will be the outcome after 10 – 15 yrs of in-home training…


We occasionally see parent replying to the complain of their kids that someone came and hit him… by saying “Ab aaye to tum bhi do lagana, darna mat” (If he comes again hit him twice, don’t be scared)… Where is teaching of peace and love???


Sometimes parents implement un-necessary restriction on the kids… I saw a mother who did not allowed her son to play with his car because of it’s TUK TUK TUK sound… and if the kid insisted, he would get beaten up… after a few years when the kid grows up… Parents wonder who taught the kid to be stubborn for his demands?


When the kid scored good marks in school, his father claims “Aakhir beta kis ka hai” (afterall who’s son he is?)… but when the same kid fails… the Father puts all the responsibilities on his mother... biased or unbiased??


It is not necessary that we teach the young generation every errors by name and definition… they learn from the action they see… Most of the evil which is spread in our society, is usually taught in our homes… Telling lies, Backbiting, Gossips, Love affairs, Stealing and much more… Even Jerry is always trying to device new ways to steal the Cheese and tom usually tries to suppress the demands of less fortunate or less power Jerry…


Nowadays a very common phrase is hitting the FB Status as a joke… but honestly it is a serious fact… it goes like…


Dear Parent,


Jasmine was in a relationship with a dirty homeless boy named Aladdin. Snow White lived alone with 7 men. Pinnochio was a liar. Robin Hood was a thief. Tarzan walked around without clothes on. A stranger kissed sleeping beauty and she married him. Cinderella lied and snuck out at night to attend a party.


Sincerely, it's not our fault, it's how you raised us


How parenting affects the kids… Our beloved Prophet, have told us this in a nutshell… It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler of the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s house and children and is responsible for her flock. The slave is the shepherd of his master’s wealth and is responsible for it. Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (853) and Muslim (1829).


The parents are the shepherd of their kids… it’s up to them… in which direction they wish to drive them… Don’t you think it is time to think about the way of parenting?


JazakAllah Khair