40 ahadith on women.

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40 ahadith on women.
 
1. Dua against the one who was beating wife.
2. Command on how to treat the wives.
3. Women of this world will outnumber men in Paradise.
4. If a Man is able to look at what will induce him to marry a woman, he should do so.
5. Consent of a Virgin for her marriage.
6. Women are partners of Men.
7. Compassion Towards Women And Command To Treat Them Kindly.
8. Women are Sensitive.
9. Allah enjoins you to treat your mothers kindly.
10. Women are Helpers of Men.
11. Those who gave most in charity were the women on Eid day.
12. Misuse of the hadith " I would have ordered women to prostrate themselves before their husbands"
13. The meaning of a hadith regarding bad omen in women.
14. Pious women have barakah / khayr i.e. Good Fortune.
15. Meaning of  witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man.
16. Deficiency of a woman's mind.
17. How the Prophet peace be upon him treated Aisha May Allah be pleased with her (related to above hadith).
18. Memory of Umm Hisham bint Haritha (Related to above hadith).
19. Intelligence of Subaia bint Al-Harith and Prophet's (peace be upon him) verdict in her favor.
20. Discussion between Men and women.
21. When the Prophet peace be upon him said: "O People", It included men and women unless it was specified.
22. Rights of women to know about Islam.
23. The Prophet peace be upon him did not return the women to kuffar in Hudaibiya treaty.
24. Putting perfume for women after taking a Bath of menses.
25. To the kuffar who claim the Prophet peace be upon him wanted to marry women of his choice as much as he wanted.
26. Non combatants are not to be killed purposely even if he/she may be a zaani or faasiq.
27. To the married women, how easily you can go to jannah.
28. To those who always argue about Men vs Women.
29. The Question to the Prophet peace be upon him: "Why is it that women are not mentioned in the Quran like men"
30. Loving pious Women and Children for the sake of Allah.
31. Marrying a man who is harsh against women.
32. The rights of Orphan and Women.
33. intercourse with the wife from her back and other sex positions.
34. A man refusing to have intercourse with his wife.
35. Your wife is one of those for whom you are responsible.
36. Do not hate believing women.
37. The point of nearness between Prophet peace be upon him and the one who brought up two girls.
38. Women will get whatever they desire in jannah.
39. Divorcing women after finishing the need and not giving her mahr.
40. I would have given precedence to women over men.
41. Do not come to any woman at night and do not cheat them.
 
 
1. Dua against the one who was beating wife.
 
Ali (radiallahanhu), said:
رَأَيْتُ امْرَأَةَ الْوَلِيدِ جَاءَتْ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَشْكُو إِلَيْهِ زَوْجَهَا أَنَّهُ يَضْرِبُهَا ، فَقَالَ لَهَا : " اذْهَبِي فَقُولِي لَهُ : كَيْتَ وَكَيْتَ " . فَذَهَبَتْ ثُمَّ رَجَعَتْ ، فَقَالَتْ : إِنَّهُ عَادَ يَضْرِبُنِي ، فَقَالَ لَهَا : " اذْهَبِي فَقُولِي لَهُ : إِنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ لَكَ " , فَذَهَبَتْ ثُمَّ عَادَتْ , فَقَالَتْ : إِنَّهُ يَضْرِبُنِي فَقَالَ : " اذْهَبِي فَقُولِي لَهُ : كَيْتَ وَكَيْتَ " ، فَقَالَتْ : إِنَّهُ يَضْرِبُنِي فَرَفَعَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَدَهُ وَقَالَ : " اللَّهُمَّ عَلَيْكَ بِالْوَلِيدِ " 
I saw the wife of Waleed bin Uqbah, she came to the prophet (peace be upon him), she was complaining about her husband that he beats her, so He (peace be upon him) said: go back! And tell him these things, she went, came back, and said, He is beating her again, so he said: go to him, and tell him that, “Verily the prophet is telling you (not to beat your wife) thus she went, and came back again, and said, He still beats me, so He (pbuh) said, go and tell him these things, she said, Certainly he beats me, so the messenger of Allah (pace be upon him) raised his hands and prayed (to Allah) saying, “O Allah! Punish Al-Waleed” 
 
 [Juzz al Rafayadayn al Bukhari no. 95, Shaykh Zubair Ali Zai said: Its chain is Hasan, translation taken from english Translation of Juzz by Raza Hasan no. 79, Buseri (d 840 h) Said: Chain is authentic in إتحاف الخيرة المهرة 6/476 , Buseri also said "This hadith is Saheeh" in same book 4/92 chapter 38 "Beating women", Musnad Abu Ya`la 1/253 the Muhaqqiq Husain Saleem Asad said: "The chain is hasan". Imam Dia al din al Maqdasi authenticated in "Ahadeeth al Mukhtarah" 2/332 w=and the Muhaqqiq Dr. Shaykh Abdul Malik bin abdullah bin Daheesh said: "The chain is Hasan", Ibn al Imam (d 745 h) mentioned in الكتاب: سلاح المؤمن في الدعاء والذكر page 115 and said: روى هَذِه الثَّلَاثَة الْأَحَادِيث البُخَارِيّ فِي كتاب رفع الْيَدَيْنِ وصححها" al Bukhari narrated three ahadeeth in Kitab Rafa yadayn and authenticated"]
 
2. Command on how to treat the wives.
 
Muawiyah al Qarshi said I went to the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives? He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them. (Abu Dawud Book 11, Number 2139)

Ibn Uthaymeen said:
ثم اعلم أن معاملتك لزوجتك يجب أن تقدر كأن رجلاً زوجاً لابنتك، كيف يعاملها؟ فهل ترضى أن يعاملها بالجفاء والقسوة؟ الجواب: لا، إذاً لا ترضى أن تعامل بنت الناس بما لا ترضى أن تعَامَل به ابنتك، وهذه قاعدة ينبغي أن يعرفها كل إنسان.
In short roughly, Treat your wife the way you want your daughter to be treated. Do you want that Husband of your daughter treat her with cruelty? NO. [Ash-Sharh Al-Mumti (12/381)]
 
3. Women of this world will outnumber men in Paradise.
 
Abu Huraira said:
النساء أكثر من الرجال في
الجنة، فنظر عمر بن الخطاب إلى القوم فقال: ألا تسمعون ما يقول أبو هريرة؟
فقال أبو هريرة سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول في أول زمرة تدخل
الجنة: وجوههم كالقمر ليلة البدر، والثانية كأضواء كوكب في السماء، ولكل
واحد منهم زوجتان يرى مخ سوقهما من وراء اللحم، وليس في الجنة عزب ".
WOMEN ARE MORE THAN MEN IN JANNAH, Umar bin al Khattab saw the people and said: Ddid you hear what Abu Huraira said?, Then Abu Huraira said: I heard the The Prophet (peace be upon him) saying, "The first batch (of people) who will enter Paradise will be (glittering) like the full moon, and the batch next to them will be (glittering) like the most brilliant star in the sky. everyone will have two wives (who will be so beautiful, pure and transparent that) the marrow of the bones of their legs will be seen through the bones and the flesh." [Silsilah Ahadeeth as-Saheeha no: 2006]
 
Ibn Hajar al Asqalani said:
واستدل أبو هريرة بهذا الحديث على أن النساء في الجنة أكثر من الرجال كما أخرجه مسلم من طريق بن سيرين عنه وهو واضح لكن يعارضه قوله صلى الله عليه و سلم في حديث الكسوف المتقدم رأيتكن أكثر أهل النار ويجاب بأنه لا يلزم من أكثريتهن في النار نفى أكثريتهن في الجنة لكن يشكل على ذلك قوله صلى الله عليه و سلم في الحديث الآخر اطلعت في الجنة فرأيت أقل ساكنها النساء ويحتمل أن يكون الراوي رواه بالمعنى الذي فهمه من أن كونهن أكثر ساكني النار يلزم منه أن يكن أقل ساكني الجنة وليس ذلك بلازم لما قدمته ويحتمل أن يكون ذلك في أول الأمر قبل خروج العصاة من النار بالشفاعة والله أعلم
Abu Huraira ra used this hadith of (everyone will have two wives) as a proof that Women will outnumber Men in paradise as it is mentioned in Sahih Muslim from Ibn Sireen as This is clear (from this hadith). But the hadith of Kusoof goes against this where the Prophet peace be upon him said to the women " I saw you in bulk amongst the dwellers of Hell." It is answered that women outnumbered in hell does not mean they are not outnumbered in jannah as well, There is another hadith which goes against this which states: "Amongst the inmates of Paradise the women would form a minority." So here it is possible that the narrator narrated this narration with its meaning (Riwaya bil M`ani) i.e. its not the words of the Prophet peace be upon him rather its the understanding of the narrator that women are more in hell means they are lesser in jannah. (Ibn Hajar said) But this is not must (that If women are more in hell means they are less in jannah, they can be more there as well) Or the answer (to this hadith) is The women could be less in Jannah at the beginning. But after the intercession of Prophet peace be upon him for the sinners (women and men), they will outnumber men in jannah as well. [Fath al Bari 6/325]
 
4. If a Man is able to look at what will induce him to marry a woman, he should do so.
 
Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah:
 
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: When one of you asked a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. He (Jabir) said: I asked a girl in marriage, I used to look at her secretly, until I looked at what induced me to marry her. I, therefore, married her. [Sunan Abi Dawud 2082]
 
5. Consent of a Virgin for her marriage.
 
It was narrated from 'Aishah that the Prophet said:
"Seek the permission of women with regard to marriage." It was said: "What if a virgin is too shy and remains silent?" He said: "That is her permission."
Reference  : Sunan an-Nasa'i 3266
 
Abul Abbas Qurtubi said:
وقد استحب علماؤنا أن تعرّف البكر أنّ سكوتها محمول منها على الإذن، ليكون ذلك زيادة في تعريفها، وتنبيهاً لها على ما يخاف ان تجهله
It is good according to our scholars that the virgin should be informed that her silence will be considered her consent.. and to alert her so that there will be no fear of ignorance. [al Mufhim 4/118]
 
6. Women are partners of Men.
 
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: 
" إنما النساء شقائق الرجال ".
'Yes. Indeed women are the partners of men.' [Silsilah ahadeeth as-Saheeha no: 2863]
 
7. Compassion Towards Women And Command To Treat Them Kindly.
 
Miqdam bin Ma'dikarib said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم 
قام في الناس فحمد الله وأثنى عليه ثم قال إن الله يوصيكم بالنساء خيرا إن الله يوصيكم بالنساء خيرا ، فإنهن أمهاتكم وبناتكم وخالاتكم..
stood amongst the people and praised Allaah and exalted Him and saidIndeed Allah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to women, Indeed Allah advices you in the strongest possible terms to be good to woman, Indeed they are your mothers your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunt and your maternal aunt... [Silsilah Ahadeeth as Saheehah no. 2871]
 
8. Women are Sensitive.
 
Anas reported that Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) came to his wives as the camel-driver who was called Anjasha had been, driving (the camels) on which (they were riding). Thereupon he said:
 
Anjasha, be careful, drive slowly for you are driving the mounts who carry vessels of glass. [Sahih Muslim Book 30, Hadith 5745]

In Sahih Muslim above hadith is uner the Chapter: "His Compassion Towards Women And His Command To Treat Them Kindly"
 
Abu al-Abbas al-Qurtubi said
شبههن بالقوارير لسرعة تأثرهن وعدم تجلدهن
Women are like bottles, because both are sensitive and fragile. [Fath al Bari]
 
9. Allah enjoins you to treat your mothers kindly.
 
Miqdam bin Ma'dikarib, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that:
حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ عَيَّاشٍ، عَنْ بَحِيرِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، عَنْ خَالِدِ بْنِ مَعْدَانَ، عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ مَعْدِيكَرِبَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ قَالَ ‏ "‏ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ - ثَلاَثًا - إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِآبَائِكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالأَقْرَبِ فَالأَقْرَبِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
 
Allah's Messenger said: "Allah enjoins you to treat your mother's kindly"-three times- "Allah enjoins you to treat your fathers kindly, Allah enjoins you to treat the closest and the next closest kindly."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3661
 
10. Women are Helpers of Men.
 
The Prophet peace be upon him said: 
وَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا، فَإِنَّهُنَّ عِنْدَكُمْ عَوَانٍ
"Treat women well, for they are with you as helpers.” [Tabari 3/151 Section: The Last Sermon]
 
The word used here is عَوَانٍ It is mentioned in Al Mufradaat
الْعَوْنُ
: المُعَاوَنَةُ والمظاهرة
The one who helps and supports. [Mufradat 1/598]
 
It is mentioned in Misbah al Lughat
العون-مص-مدد كزنا-مدد گار-...(واحد جمع مزكر مونث سب كے ليے مستعمل ہے)ج
اعوان
Al-Awn meaning-Doing help- helper-care taker (It can be use for all Singular, plural, Male, Female) C Awaan [Misbah ul Lughat Arabic to urdu dictionary1/561 maktabah quddusiyah]
 
Some people translated the word as "prisoners" like innocent prisoners fear from some merciless guards as Ibn al-Sayyidah said:
 والعَواني النساءُ لأَنَّهُنَّ يُظْلَمْنَ فلا يَنْتَصِرْنَ
Alawani are the women because they get oppressed (by men) and they can not take their rights (from men)[Lisaan alArab Vol 10 page 315]
 
Like today we can see in some societies men beat their wives, They abuse her, they even throw acid on them and they take their rights and Women are not able to stand for their rights. So, in that way the hadith says treat women well don't take their rights, don`t use your strength against them to oppress them. You have to be good to them.
 
11. Those who gave most in charity were the women on Eid day.
 
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to say on Eids :
"‏ تَصَدَّقُوا تَصَدَّقُوا ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَأَكْثَرُ مَنْ يَتَصَدَّقُ النِّسَاءُ 
 ‘Give in charity. Give in charity.’ Those who gave most in charity were the women. [Ibn Maja Book 5, Hadith 1347, Sahih Muslim 889]
 
12. Misuse of the hadith " I would have ordered women to prostrate themselves before their husbands"
 
Prophet peace be upon him said: “If I were to order someone to fall prostrate before anyone other than Allaah, I would have ordered women to prostrate themselves before their husbands because of the great right that Allaah has made due to them from their wives.”
 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen may Allaah have mercy upon him said: “In brief, these words that were mentioned in the Hadeeth are general, but they are restricted to the husband fulfilling his wife’s rights. If he does not fulfill her rights, then she is entitled to demand her rights and deny his rights in the same manner that he denies her rights; Allaah says (what means): {So whoever has assaulted you, then assault him in the same way that he has assaulted you.} [Quran 2:194] Allaah says (what means): {And if you punish [an enemy, O believers], punish with an equivalent of that with which you were harmed.} [Quran 16:126]” [End of quote] [Taken from Islamweb]
 
Al Qurtubi said:
وإذا لم يكن قَوّاماً عليها كان لها فسخ العقد؛ لزوال المقصود الذي شُرع لأجله النكاح. وفيه دلالة واضحةٌ من هذا الوجه على ثبوت فسخ النكاح عند الإعسار بالنفقة والكسوة؛ وهو مذهب مالك والشافعي. وقال أبو حنيفة؛ لا يفسخ؛ لقوله تعالى:
{ وَإِن كَانَ ذُو عُسْرَةٍ فَنَظِرَةٌ إِلَىٰ مَيْسَرَةٍ }
[البقرة: 280] وقد تقدّم القول في هذا في هذه السورة.
If a Man who is unable to spend on her then he is not "Qawwam" (In charge) of her. And when he is not "Qawwam" on her then it is allowed for her to terminate the contract, because the aim of marriage is not fulfilled due to which Nikah is prescribed. This verse is the evidence of terminating the nikah when one is unable to spend on maintenance. This is the saying of Imam Malik and ash-Shafiee, but Imam Abu Hanifa said: Nikah should not be terminated because Allah says: "And if someone is in hardship, then [let there be] postponement until [a time of] ease." (al Baqarah verse 280) The tafsir on this verse is already mentioned before . [Tafsir al Qurtubi under 4:34]
 
13. The meaning of a hadith regarding bad omen in women.
 
 Ibn ‘Umar said: Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If bad omens are to be found in anything, it is in a house, a woman and a horse.” [Al-Bukhaari (5094) and Muslim, (2252)]
 
Narrated Abdullah ibn Mas'ud: 
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Taking omens is polytheism; taking omens is polytheism. He said it three times. Every one of us has some, but Allah removes it by trust (in Him). [Sunan Abi Dawud 3910, Grade Sahih by Al-Albani]
 
At-Tahawi and at-Tabari opined that The Prophet peace be upon him negated the belief in bad Omens from everything including women. But IF omens are to be found in anything then they would be in these three. But again that is not true. 
[See Tahdeeb al Athaar 3/34, Sharah Mushkil al Athaar 2/249, Silsilah as-Saheeha al Abani 1/408]
 
at-Tahawi also said:
وقد روي عنه عليه السلام في نفي الشؤم أيضا وأن ضده من اليمن قد يكون في هذه الثلاثة الأشياء 
Negation of Bad Omen is also narrated from Prophet peace be upon him. And that is opposite to (Bad Omen) which is Good fortune which can be found in these three (Woman, horse and a House).  [Sharah Mushkil al Athaar 2/253]
 
14. Pious women have barakah / khayr i.e. Good Fortune.
 
Right after above statement at Tahawi Narrated
ما حدثنا ابن أبي داود ، حدثنا هشام بن عمار ، حدثنا إسماعيل بن عياش ، حدثنا سليمان بن سليم ، عن يحيى بن جابر الطائي ، عن معاوية بن حكيم ، عن عمه مخمر بن معاوية قال : سمعت النبي عليه السلام يقول : « لا شؤم ، وقد يكون اليمن في المرأة ، والفرس ، والدابة 
Makhmar bin Muawiyah said: I heard Allah's Messenger (peace be upin him) say: "Do NOT believe in omens, and GOOD FORTUNE (Khayr/Barakah) is to be found in three things: A woman, a horse and a house." [Sharah Mushkil al Athaar 2/253]
 
In short,
 
There is no bad omen in women rather women have good fortune in general. Scholars have various other opinions but this is sufficient.
 
15. Meaning of  witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man.
 
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said,"Isn't the witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man?" The women said, "Yes." He said, "This is because of the deficiency of a woman's mind. Sahih al-Bukhari 2658
 
Man has to use his memory to remember the events and he is the ONLY ONE who is responsible for the accuracy of the witness. Whereas, woman has to take help of another woman. Isn't the blessing?
 
Don't you know how big is the burden of witness?
 
It was narrated that Abu Bakrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Shall I not tell you of the greatest of major sins?” We said, “Yes indeed, O Messenger of Allaah.” He said ... “And false speech and false witness, and false speech and false witness,” and he kept on saying it until I thought he would never stop. [Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5631; Muslim, 87]
 
Imam Abu Ali Husayn al Shoshawi (d 899 h) said:
 
فرب رجل يكون أضعف عقلاً من كثير من النساء، ومع ذلك هو مكلف بإجماع، ورب امرأة تكون أكثر عقلاً من كثير من الرجال... وكانت - رضي الله عنها - من سادات العلماء رضي الله عنها. وقال عليه السلام: "نِعْم النساء نساء الأنصار، لم يمنعهن الحياء أن يتفقهن في الدين"
 
And there are cases where the Man has weaker mind then many of the women and still he is obliged (to follow Islam). And sometimes the woman has much better mind than many men.. Aishah May Allah be pleased with her was among the greatest of the scholars, He (peace be upon him) said: "How good were the women of the Ansar: For they did not let shyness keep them from understanding their religion properly."
[رفع النقاب عن تنقيح الشهاب 2/304]
 
The scholars of Islamweb states:
 
"there are some fields in which women overcome men. For example, there are many fields in which Allah made the witness of one woman to be enough, such as in matters relating to menses, birth, women defects, suckling and other matters that men can not know. Allah exempted women from the prayer and fasting during their menstrual period. This concession is actually a sign of blessing and mercy of Allah on the woman as she faces many biological changes during this period." [Islamweb Fatwa No : 81237]
 
So, Do not view Islam from a western mindset. Do not make a blessing in to a Curse.
 
16. Deficiency of a woman's mind.
 
 The Prophet peace be upon him addressed some specific women and asked for alms and said:
"O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." [Sahih al-Bukhari 1462]
 
In easy words the Prophet peace be upon him wanted that the sins of some women should be removed by giving Alms and he was harsh in this case.
 
Ibn Hajr al Asqalani mentioned many benefits from the hadith (, one of them is:
وفيه الإغلاظ في النصح بما يكون سببا لإزالة الصفة التي تعاب ، وأن لا يواجه بذلك الشخص المعين ; لأن في التعميم تسهيلا على السامع
It is allowed to be harsh (i.e. Exaggerate) while advising due to which the sin is removed. But without specifying any person (i.e. it should be general). [Fath al Bari under hadith no. 304]
 
Allah says:
 
And those who are patient, seeking the countenance of their Lord, and establish prayer and spend from what We have provided for them secretly and publicly and PREVENT EVIL WITH GOOD - those will have the good consequence of [this] home - [13 : 22]
 
And that is what happened, The wife of Ibn Masud came to him and said,
 
"O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Mas`ud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied, "Ibn Mas`ud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else." [Sahih al-Bukhari 1462]
 
Ibn Hajr al Asqalani also said:
وليس المقصود بذكر النقص في النساء لومهن على ذلك ; لأنه من أصل الخلقة ، لكن التنبيه على ذلك تحذير من الافتتان بهن
"Blaming the women was not reason behind the use of the word Nuqsan(deficient) for women.. It was used to warn the women…" [Fath al Bari under hadith no. 304]
 
17. How the Prophet peace be upon him treated Aisha May Allah be pleased with her (related to above hadith).
 
How the Prophet peace be upon him dealt with Mother Aisha when Aisha May Allah be pleased with her said "I can not pray" due to Monthly cycle. Did he say O Woman you are deficient in Religion?
 
Aisha said:
 
The Prophet (peace be upon him) came to me while I was weeping.
 
He asked me the reason for it. I replied, "I have heard of what you have said to your companions and I cannot do the `Umra."
 
He asked me, "What is the matter with you?" I replied, "I am not praying."
 
He said, "THERE IS NO HARM IN IT AS YOU ARE ONE OF THE DAUGHTERS OF ADAM and the same is written for you as for others. So, you should perform Hajj and I hope that Allah will enable you to perform the `Umra as well."
 
So, I carried on till we departed from Mina and halted at Al-Mahassab. The Prophet (Peace be upon him) called `Abdur- Rahman and said, "Go out of the sanctuary with your sister (Aisha) and let her assume Ihram for `Umra, and after both of you have finished the Tawaf I will be waiting for you at this place." We came back at midnight and the Prophet (peace be upon him) asked us, "Have you finished?" I replied in the affirmative. [Sahih al-Bukhari 1788]
 
In short, there is no harm for women when they leave prayer in their monthly periods, rather they will get reward of following command, Which is a blessing for them. And the Prophet peace be upon him commanded some women only for a reason that is (those) women should give alms so that their sin get removed. 
 
Did you ever see a Man saying "Why My witness is not even needed in in matters relating to women only".
 
Ibn al Munzar (Born 241h Died 318 h) said:
واتفقوا على قبول شهادتهن مفردات فيما لا يطلع عليه الرجال ، كالحيض والولادة والاستهلال وعيوب النساء
They (the scholars) are agreed upon to accept the witness of women in the matters related to women that men can not know like menses, birth, al Istahlal and women defects. [Fath al Bari under the hadith 2658]
 
So, do not see Islam through the eyes of kuffar. They try to fool you. The more you read about Islam, the more beautiful things you will know. Some examples are:
 
18. Memory of Umm Hisham bint Haritha (Related to above hadith).
 
Umm Hisham bint Haritha b. Nu'man said:
.. I learnt Surah "Qaf. By the Glorious Qur'an" from no other source (i.e. Mushaf etc) than the tongue of Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) who used to recite it every Friday on the pulpit when he delivered the sermon to the people.
Reference : Sahih Muslim 873
 
And now a days we have Mushaf and we don't learn, we listen to the sermon's but could not learn the verses of Qur`an.
 
When Asma bint Umais won the discussion against the mountain of knowledge Umar ibn al Khattab.
 
Asma' bint 'Umais who had migrated to Abyssinia and had come back along with immigrants visited Hafsa, the wife of Allah's Apostle (Peace be upon him).
 
(Accordingly), Umar had been sitting with her (Hafsa). As 'Umar saw Asma, he said: Who is she? She (Hafsa) said: She is Asma, daughter of 'Umais.
 
He said: She is an Abyssinian and a sea-woman.
 
Asma said: Yes, it is so.
 
Thereupon 'Umar said: We preceded you in migration and so we have more right to Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) as compared with you.
 
At this she felt annoyed and said: 'Umar, you are not stating the fact; by Allah, you had the privilege of being in the company of the Messenger (peace be upon him) who fed the hungry among you and instructed the ignorant amongst you, whereas we had been far (from here) in the land of Abyssinia amongst the enemies and that was all for Allah and Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) and, by Allah, I would never take food nor take water unless I make a mention to Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) of what you have said. We remained in that country in constant trouble and dread and I shall talk about it to Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) and ask him (about it). By Allah, I shall not tell a lie and deviate (from the truth) and add anything to that.
 
So, when Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) came, she said: Allah's Apostle, 'Umar says so and so.
 
Upon this Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: His right is not more than yours, for him and his companions there is one migration, but for you, i. e. for the people of the boat, there are two migrations.
 
She said: I saw Abu Musa and the people of the boat coming to me in groups and asking me about this hadith, because there was nothing more pleasing and more significant for them than this.
 
Abu Burda reported that Asma said: I saw Abu Musa, asking me to repeat this hadith to him again and again. [Sahih Muslim 2502, 2503]
 
SubhanAllah what a beautiful answer and how the Prophet peace be upon him agreed with her and how the giants of knowledge like Abu Musa asked her to repeat it again and again.
 
19. Intelligence of Subaia bint Al-Harith and Prophet's (peace be upon him) verdict in her favor.
 
When Subaia bint Al-Harith completed the term of deliver (i.e. became clean after her husbans's death), she prepared herself for suitors.
 
 Abu As-Sanabil, a man from the tribe of Bani Abd-ud-Dal called on her and said to her, "What! I see you dressed up for the people to ask you in marriage. Do you want to marry By Allah, you are not allowed to marry unless four months and ten days have elapsed (after your husband's death)."
 
Subaia said, "When he (i.e. Abu As-Sanabil) said this to me. I put on my dress in the evening and went to Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) and asked him about this problem. He gave the verdict that I was free to marry as I had already given birth to my child and ordered me to marry if I wished."
 
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 3991
 
Ibn Hajr mentioned some benefits from above hadith:
وفيه ما كان في سبيعة من الشهامة والفطنة 
Subaia's Shahamah and intelligence is proven from this hadith..
 
20. Discussion between Men and women.
 
 Narrated Um Al-Fadl bint Al-Harith:
 
"While the people were with me on the day of `Arafat they differed as to whether the Prophet (peace be upon him) was fasting or not; some said that he was fasting while others said that he was not fasting. So, I sent to him a bowl full of milk while he was riding over his camel and he drank it."
 
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 1988
 
Ibn Hajr al asqalani said There are some benefits in this hadith among those are:
وَفِيهِ الْبَحْثُ وَالِاجْتِهَادُ فِي حَيَاتِهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَالْمُنَاظَرَةُ فِي الْعِلْمِ بَيْنَ الرِّجَالِ وَالنِّسَاءِ
In it there (is an evidence) of doing Arguments and Ijtihad in the Life of Prophet peace be upon him and discussion between men and women on knowledge. [Fath al Bari under the hadith 1988]
 
Note: The companions men and women always spoke with each other by doing proper hijab and that also when it was needed. As mentioned in the following athar.
 
Masruq reported:
 
I heard 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) clapping her hands behind the curtain and saying... [Sahih Muslim Book 7, Hadith 3044]
 
21. When the Prophet peace be upon him said: "O People", It included men and women unless it was specified.
 
 Umm Salama, the wife of Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him), said I used to hear from people making a mention of the Cistern, but I did not hear about it from Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him). One day while a girl was combing me I heard Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) say:
 
" O people." I said to that girl: Keep away from me. She said: He (the Holy Prophet) has addressed the men only and he has not invited the attention of the women. I said: I am amongst the people also (and have thus every right to listen to the things pertaining to religion). Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: I shall be your harbinger on the Cistern; therefore, be cautious lest one of you should come (to me) and may be driven away like a stray camel. I would ask the reasons, and it would be said to me: You don't know what innovations they made after you. And I would then also say: Be away.
Reference : Sahih Muslim 2295
 
22. Rights of women to know about Islam.
 
Imam al Bukhari said:
 
Chapter: Should a day be fixed for women in order to teach them religion (apart from men)?
 
Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:
 
Some women requested the Prophet (peace be upon him) to fix a day for them as the men were taking all his time. On that he promised them one day for religious lessons and commandments. Once during such a lesson the Prophet said, "A woman whose three children die will be shielded by them from the Hell fire." On that a woman asked, "If only two die?" He replied, "Even two (will shield her from the Hell-fire).
 
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 101
 
23. The Prophet peace be upon him did not return the women to kuffar in Hudaibiya treaty.
 
In the Treaty of Hudaibiya, one of the things stipulated, was that the Prophet (peace be upon him) should return to the pagans anyone coming to him from their side due to their dhulm, even if he was a Muslim. 
 
During that period some believing women emigrants including Um Kulthum bint `Uqba bin Abu Muait who came to Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) and she was a young lady then. Her relative came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and asked him to return her, but the Prophet (peace be upon him) did not return her to them for Allah had revealed the following Verse regarding women: "O you who believe! When the believing women come to you as emigrants. Examine them, Allah knows best as to their belief, then if you know them for true believers, Send them not back to the unbelievers, (for) they are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers, Nor are the unbelievers lawful (husbands) for them (60.10)
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 2711, 2712
 
Ibn Hajr asqalani said:
Some scholars said the Prophet peace be upon him did not even mentioned women in this stipulation as mentioned in the following hadith,
وقد أخرج ابن أبي حاتم من طريق مقاتل بن حيان أن المشركين قالوا للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم : رد علينا من هاجر من نسائنا ، فإن شرطنا أن من أتاك منا أن ترده علينا . فقال : كان الشرط في الرجال ولم يكن في النساء وهذا لو ثبت كان قاطعا للنزاع 
Ibn Abi Hatim narrated from Muqatil bin Hiyan that, The Pagans asked the Prophet peace be upon him to return their women (who have migrated from them to the muslims) because one of the stipulation is that you should return anyone coming from our side, He peace be upon him said: This was for men not regarding the women. (Ibn Hajr said:) If this is proven then this is clear text in this difference of opinion. [Fath al Bari Kitab at-Talaq under the hadith: 5287]
 
24. Putting perfume for women after taking a Bath of menses.
 
Narrated `Aisha:
A woman asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) about the bath which is taken after finishing from the menses. The Prophet (peace be upon him) told her what to do and said, "Purify yourself with a piece of cloth scented with musk." The woman asked, "How shall I purify myself with it" He said, "Subhan Allah! Purify yourself (with it)." I (Aisha) pulled her to myself and said, "Rub the place soiled with blood with it." [Sahih al-Bukhari 315]
 
Imam Bukhari made a chapter
 
"Putting perfume by woman at the time of taking a bath after finishing from the menses" [Sahih al Bukhari, Book of Menstrual Periods, chapter 12]
 
Ibn Hajr al Asqalani said in the commentary:
أن تطيب المرأة عند الغسل من الحيض متأكد بحيث إنه رخص للحادة التي حرم عليها استعمال الطيب في شيء منه مخصوص . 
Putting perfume by a woman at the time of taking bath is emphasised, It is even allowed for a widow (after a bath), even though she is not allowed to put perfume (other than the bath of Hayd) for 4 months and 10 days. [Fath al Bari, Kitab al Hayd, under chapter 12]
 
25. To the kuffar who claim the Prophet peace be upon him wanted to marry women of his choice as much as he wanted.
 
Ibn Abi Shayba narrated from Jabir May Allah be pleased with him that, Utba (one of the staunch enemy of Islam) said to the Prophet peace be upon him:
أيها الرجل ، إن كان إنما بك الباءة فاختر أي نساء قريش ونزوجك عشرا ، وإن كان إنما بك الحاجة جمعنا لك حتى تكون أغنى قريش رجلا واحدا ،
 
"O Man, if you have interest in marriage than you can choose any woman from the Quraysh, we will marry you with ten women, and If you need anything. We will provide you as much that you will be the richest person alone in Quraysh."
 
The prophet peace be upon him replied by reciting the verses of Qur`an from Surah Fusilat, when he reached the 13th verse:
 
"But if they turn away, then say, "I have warned you of a thunderbolt like the thunderbolt [that struck] 'Aad and Thamud."
 
Utba stopped him:
فقال عتبة : حسبك حسبك ما عندك غير هذا ؟ قال : لا 
Stop, stop, do you have any other thing than this? He (peace be upon him) said: No.. [Musannaf Ibn Abi Shayba vol 11, Kitab al Seyar, chapter 5, Shaykh al Albani mentioned this in Saheeh seerah al Nabawiyah (The authentic Seerah of the Prophet peace be upon him) page 160]
 
26. Non combatants are not to be killed purposely even if he/she may be a zaani or faasiq.
 
Ibn Hajr said regarding a Lover of a girl, that when Prophet peace be upon him sent a سرية:
وقد روى النسائي والبيهقي في " الدلائل " بإسناد صحيح من حديث ابن عباس نحو هذه القصة وقال فيها : " فقال إني لست منهم ، إني عشقت امرأة منهم فدعوني أنظر إليها نظرة - قال فيه - فضربوا عنقه ، فجاءت المرأة فوقعت عليه فشهقت شهقة أو شهقتين ثم ماتت ، فذكروا ذلك للنبي - صلى الله عليه وسلم - فقال : أما كان فيكم رجل رحيم " ؟
It is narrated by an-Nisai and al Bayhaqi in "ad-Dalaail" with an authentic chain from Ibn Abbas a story like this, which states that he said: I am not from them (Bani Juzayma), I am the lover of a woman among them and i want to look at her. The narration states that he was killed (by a man) and that woman wept over him and died, Someone (complaint) in front of the Prophet peace be upon him and He said: There was no one (among you) who was merciful?.
[Fath al Bari, Kitab al Maghazi ch 64, Declared authentic by Ibn Hajr and al Albani in as-Saheeha no. 2594]
 
27. To the married women, how easily you can go to jannah.
 
The prophet peace be upon him said:
ونساؤكم من أهل الجنة الودود الولود العؤود على
زوجها التي إذا غضب جاءت حتى تضع يدها في يد زوجها، وتقول: لا أذوق غمضا
حتى ترضى 
Your women are among the people of jannah who are loving and when her husband gets angry and she put her hand on her husband's hand and say: I will not sleep until you are pleased. [Silsilah as-Saheeha no. 287]
 
28. To those who always argue about Men vs Women.
 
Narrated Umm 'Umarah Al-Ansariyyah:
that she came to the Prophet (Peace be upon him) and said: "I do not see bu that everything is for the men, and I do not see anything being mentioned for the women." So this Ayah was revealed: "Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women, the believing men and believing women, the obedient men and obedient women, the truthful men and truthful women, the patient men and patient women, the humble men and humble women, the charitable men and charitable women, the fasting men and fasting women, the men who guard their private parts and the women who do so, and the men who remember Allah often and the women who do so - for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward" (33 : 35)'
[Tirmidhi Vol. 5, Book 44, Hadith 3211]
 
29. The Question to the Prophet peace be upon him: "Why is it that women are not mentioned in the Quran like men"
 
Imam Ahmad recorded that Umm Salamah, may Allah be pleased with her, the wife of the Prophet said, "I said to the Prophet , `Why is it that we are not mentioned in the Qur'an as men are' Then one day without my realizing it, he was calling from the Minbar and I was combing my hair, so I tied my hair back then I went out to my chamber in my house, and I started listening out, and he was saying from the Minbar:
 
"Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women, the believing men and believing women, the obedient men and obedient women, ..")) [Tafsir Ibn Kathir under 5 : 35]
 
30. Loving pious Women and Children for the sake of Allah.
 
Narrated Anas:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) saw the women and children (of the Ansar) coming forward. (The sub-narrator said, "I think that Anas said, 'They were returning from a wedding party.") The Prophet (peace be upon him) stood up and said thrice, "By Allah! You are from the most beloved people to me."
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 3785
 
31. Marrying a man who is harsh against women.
 
Fatima bint Qais said When my period of 'Idda was over, I said to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him:
 
Mu'awiya and Abu'l-Jahm (Allah be pleased with them) were among those who had given me the proposal of marriage. Thereupon Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) said: Mu'awiya is destitute and in poor condition and Abu'l-Jahm is very harsh with women (or he beats women, or like that), you should take Usama b. Zaid (as your husband).
 
Reference : Sahih Muslim : Book 9, Hadith 3527
 
32. The rights of Orphan and Women.
 
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah(peace be upon him) said:
‏ "‏ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أُحَرِّجُ حَقَّ الضَّعِيفَيْنِ الْيَتِيمِ وَالْمَرْأَةِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
"O Allah, bear witness that I have issued a warning concerning (failure to fulfill) the rights of the two weak ones: Orphans and women .'"
Grade : Hasan (Darussalam) 
Reference : Sunan Ibn Majah 3678
 
33. intercourse with the wife from her back and other sex positions.
 
Imam ad-Darami narrated
 
عن ابن سابط قال سألت حفصة بنت عبد الرحمن هو ابن أبي بكر قلت لها إني أريد أن أسألك عن شيء وأنا أستحيي أن أسألك عنه قالت سل يا ابن أخي عما بدا لك قال أسألك عن إتيان النساء في أدبارهن فقالت حدثتني أم سلمة قالت كانت الأنصار لا تجبي وكانت المهاجرون تجبي فتزوج رجل من المهاجرين امرأة من الأنصار فجباها فأبت الأنصارية فأتت أم سلمة فذكرت ذلك لها فلما أن جاء النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم استحيت الأنصارية وخرجت فذكرت ذلك أم [سلمة للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال ادعوها لي فدعيت له فقال لها {نساؤكم حرث لكم فأتوا حرثكم أنى شئتم} سماما واحدا والسمام السبيل الواحد
 
From Ibn Saabit that he said: I asked Hafsa bint Abdul Rahman ibn Abu Bakr that I want to ask you something but i am shy, 
 
Hafsa said: O my nephew, ask anything. He said: I want to ask regarding intercourse with the wife from her back. 
 
She said: Umm Salmah narrated to me that Ansar would not (enjoy) their women by laying them on their faces, but Muhajireen would lay them on their faces, then a Muhajir married with a woman from Ansaar, He wanted her to lay down on her face but she refused. 
 
She came to Umm Salmah and mentioned this. When Prophet peace be upon him entered the Ansaari woman went out due to shyness, Umm Salmah mentioned to the Prophet peace be upon him regarding her case. He peace be upon him said: ask her to come, when she came He recited: "Your wives are a place of sowing of seed for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish" [2 : 223] Meaning one valve and valve is one way( i.e. only vagina). [Sunan ad-Darami 1159, Abdul Mannan Raasikh the Muhaqqiq of Sunan ad-Darami said: "Saheeh (see also ) Ahmad 6/305 and Tafseer at-Tabari 2/92"]
 
Abdul Mannan Raasikh said, which means:
 
i) There should be no shyness in asking any Shar`ee question, it is the way to destruction and ignorance if shyness is shown in it. 
 
ii) If someone is shy to ask this type of question then he should be encouraged rather than making fun. [end quote]
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34. A man refusing to have intercourse with his wife
 
When Abdullah bin Amr bin al Aas ra started offering prayers all night and fasting during the day, Prophet peace be upon him advised him, one of it is 
 
"and your wife has a right on you" (Bukhari Book #31, Hadith #196)
 
Ibn Hajar wrote, which roughly means
، وقد يأتي لفظ المفاعلة ويراد بها نفس الفعل ولا يتجه عليها اللوم إلا إذا بدأت هي بالهجر فغضب هو لذلك أو هجرها وهي ظالمة فلم تستنصل من ذنبها وهجرته ، أما لو بدا هـو بهجرها ظالما لها فلا ،
 
... But if he is the one who started it (deserting), and is thus treating her unfairly, then she is not to blame... [Fath al Bari the commentary of the hadith 5193]
 
35. Your wife is one of those for whom you are responsible.
 
According to a report narrated by Musnad Ahmad (2/524), it was said: 
For whom am I responsible, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “Your wife is one of those for whom you are responsible.”
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36. Do not hate believing women.
 
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may be pleased with another.” Narrated by Muslim (1469) from Abu Hurayrah.
 
37. The point of nearness between Prophet peace be upon him and the one who brought up two girls.
 
Sahih Muslim Book 032, Number 6364: Malik reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: He, who brought up two girls properly till they grew up, he and I would come (together) (very closely) on the Day of Resurrection, and he interlaced his fingers (for explaining the point of nearness between him and that person).(end)
 
38. Women will get whatever they desire in jannah.
 
Prophet peace be upon him said: "'If Allah admits you into Paradise, you will have in it whatever is desired by your soul and pleasing to your eye.'" [Silsilah as-Saheeha hadeeth no. 3001]
 
39. Divorcing women after finishing the need and not giving her mahr.
 
Narrated by Ibn Umar ra 
، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: إِنَّ أَعْظَمَ الذُّنُوبِ عِنْدَ اللهِ رَجُلٌ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً ، فَلَمَّا قَضَى حَاجَتَهُ مِنْهَا ، طَلَّقَهَا ، وَذَهَبَ بِمَهْرِهَا ، وَرَجُلٌ اسْتَعْمَلَ رَجُلاً ، فَذَهَبَ بِأُجْرَتِهِ ، وَآخَرُ يَقْتُلُ دَابَّةً عَبَثًا.
 
The Prophet peace be upon him said: It is one of the GREATEST SIN in the sight of Allah that a man marries a woman and when he finish his needs from her, he divorce her and do not giver her  Mahr [Mustadrak al Haakim 2/198, alAlbani ra authenticated in Silsilah as-Saheeha no. 999]
 
40. I would have given precedence to women over men.
 
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said, The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: 
سووا بين أولادكم في العطية , ولو كنت مؤثرا لأحد لآثرت النساء على الرجال 
“Treat your children fairly in giving gifts; and if I were to have given precedence to anyone, I would have given precedence to women over men.” [Sunan al Kubra by al Bayhaqi, The book of Gifts, 6/294, Ibn Hajar al Asqalani declared the chain to be Hasan in Fath al Bari 5/214, Shaykh Mu`allami said the mursal is saheeh and marfu is weak, sh Al Albani considered the Marfu one weak.]
 
if someone do not agree with the authentication of Ibn Hajr on above hadith thats why quoting the hadith no 41.
 
41. Do not come to women at night and do not cheat them.
 
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
 
 يا أيها الناس لا تطرقوا النساء ليلا ولا تغترواهن
اے لوگو رات کو کسی عورت کو ہاتھ نا لگاؤ اور نا ہی ان کو دھوکہ دو
O People do not come to women at night and do not cheat them. [Silsilah Ahadeeth as-Saheeha no. 3085]
 
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said:
 
فيقع الذي يهجم بعد طول الغيبة غالبا ما يكره ، إما أن يجد أهله على غير أهبة من التنظف والتزين المطلوب من المرأة فيكون ذلك سبب النفرة بينهما ، وقد أشار إلى ذلك بقوله في حديث الباب الذي بعده بقوله " كي تستحد المغيبة ، وتمتشط الشعثة "
 
The one who comes suddenly after a lengthy absence usually finds something he dislikes. Either he finds that his wife is not in the state of cleanliness and adornment that is required of a woman, so that causes alienation between them, and this was referred to in the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in the hadeeth, “so that the woman whose husband has been absent may shave her pubes and the one who is dishevelled may comb her hair” [Fath al-Baari (9/123)]

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