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Refutation of Allegations against Islam: Muslimc Wife Concubine. Deception, misquotation and false allegations against Islam by Arya Samajis or Agniveer
Allegations against islam can be found here: http://agniveer.com/1184/muslim-wife-concubine/
I would like to quote a hadith of Prophet peace be upon him which alone can refute the claims of agniveer, and a sane man will never see agniveer`s false research again.
detailed refutation follows below
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What Dr. Zakir actually said, is here:
a) Men and Women's Rights in Islam: Equal or Equally Balanced? By Bassam Zawadi : http://www.call-to-monotheism.com/men_and_women_s_rights_in_islam__equal_or_equally_balanced_
b) Also view this Article “Women's Rights and Equality in Islam” By an American convert to Islam, Yahya M. : http://www.islamfortoday.com/womensrights2.htm
c) “Concubines & Slavery the Islamic Position” by Shaykh Hatem al-Haj: http://www.amjaonline.com/en_d_details.php?id=285
d) Listen to this interview of an ex rapper Napoleon from 2 Pac Outlaws (everybody knows who was 2 Pac in rap music) "Napoleon on BBC (How I got saved)" : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgp9D0-cQ4w&feature=PlayList&p=FD1AC9B916F93CB5&index=1
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Some of his words from 11 minutes 40 seconds-onward are:
"I was very disrespectful to women ... you know how people say Muslims oppress their women, before I became a muslim I used to oppress women and many of the rappers, we oppress the women to our song to our music and we are teaching the whole generation to grow up and have no respect for your mother anymore, have no respect for your sister anymore ... when i read the religion of Islam and the life of prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) and he said those are best of all the Muslims who are best to their wives and once wife of the Prophet Ayesha(r.a) she asks the prophet Muhammad(s.a.w) who have more rights over the women, he said the husband... she say who have more right over the man, he say the mother ... So, this is the first time I see the importance of women in society and it started to change me and the more that I read the more I was able to recognize a life that was living".
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a) Polygamy by Asim ul Haq
http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/answering-islam-website/213-polygamy
b) Stoning to death by Asim ul Haq
http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/answering-islam-website/256-stoning-to-death
I'll provide a short reply. This is a wrong translation provided by him. The correct one is as follows:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husbands absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husbands property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great. [004:034, Muhammad Al-Hilali & Muhsin Khan]
It is mentioned in Sahih Muslim, narrated from Jaabir that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in his Farewell Sermon:
"Fear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely (another hadith says but without causing injury or leaving a mark.). Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner" (Narrated by Muslim, 1218, Tirmidhi, 1163, and Ibn Maajah, 1851)
We ask the author, whether any non Muslim husband would permit his wife to allow any other person whom he does not like on their bed? See the beauty of Islam.Even then it says, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds (In refusing to share the bed, even the husband is deprived), (and last) beat them lightly, if it is useful. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner" Subhan'Allah
All this is for our good because Allah says “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones” [al-Tahreem 66:6]
Regarding his comment
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Allah says: "If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best; even though men's souls are swayed by greed. But if ye do good and practice self-restraint, God is well-acquainted with all that ye do. (The Noble Quran, 4:128)"
i) It’s an order to the Husband that he should love his wife
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may be pleased with another.” Narrated by Muslim (1469) from Abu Hurayrah.
ii) According to a report narrated by Musnad Ahmad (2/524), it was said: “ من أعول يا رسول الله ؟ قال : امرأتك ممن تعول
For whom am I responsible, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “Your wife is one of those for whom you are responsible.”
iii) Another hadith says Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Allaah will ask everyone who has been given responsibility about whatever he was responsible for, until He asks a man about his family.” (Authenticated by Ibn Hibaan in Al Ihsan hadeeth no: 1562, Authenticated by Shaykh Al Albani in As Saheeha hadeeth no: 1636).
iv) Lastly Shaykh Salih Al Munajjid said in Islamqa fatwa no: 2083 states:
If it is the husband who is mistreating his wife, that does not mean that she should remain oppressed or that her hands are tied. She has the right – just as the husband has – to warn and advise him, and to remind him to fear Allaah. If that does not work, she can seek the help of wise people among his relatives and her own, and they can advise him. If this does not work, then the matter can be taken to a qaadi (Muslim judge) who can force him to do the right thing – and Allaah is above them all.(end)
v) It is narrated that the women of the Sahaabah used to argue and debate with them, and indeed this is the way in which the Mothers of the Believers [i.e., the Prophet's wives] used to act with our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), as 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): "We Quraysh used to control our women, but when we came to the Ansaar we found that they were a people who were controlled by their women. So our women started to adopt the ways of the Ansaari women. I got angry with my wife and she argued with me and I did not like her arguing with me. She said, 'Why do you object to me arguing with you? By Allaah, the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) argue with him...'" Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4895; Muslim, 1479.
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said – discussing the lessons to be learned from this hadeeth –
"This indicates that being harsh with women is something blameworthy, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) adopted the way of the Ansaar with their women and forsook the way of his people." Fath al-Baari, 9/291
vi) Also go through
a) Refuting Muhammad recommended wife beating and beat Aysha by Asim ul Haq http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/abul-kasem/223-muhammad-recommended-wife-beating-and-also-beat-wife-ayesha
b) Does Islam allow wife beating? By Waqar Akbar Cheema http://letmeturnthetables.blogspot.com/2008/06/does-islam-allow-wife-beating.html
c) Rebuttal to Silas' Article "A Rebuttal of Jamal Badawi's "Wife Beating" by Bassam Zawadi http://www.call-to-monotheism.com/rebuttal_to_silas__article__a_rebuttal_of_jamal_badawi_s__wife_beating_
vi) Woman beating in Hindu Scriptures
Brihadaranyak Upanishad says
6. Now, if a man sees himself (his reflection) in water, he should recite the following mantra: "May the gods bestow on me vigour, manhood, fame, wealth and merit." In praise of the wife who will bear him a son: She (his wife) has put on the soiled clothes of impurity; she is, verily, loveliness among women. Therefore when she has removed the clothes of impurity and appears beautiful, he should approach her and speak to her.
7. If she does not willingly yield her body to him, he should buy her with presents. If she is still unyielding, he should strike her with a stick or with his hand and overcome her, repeating the following mantra: "With power and glory I take away your glory." Thus she becomes discredited.
8) If she grants his desire, he should repeat the following mantra: "With power and glory I give you glory." Thus they both become glorious. [Brihadaranyak Upanishad Adhyay 6, Brahman 4, Mantra 6,7;Translated by Swami Nikhilananda, see following link]
http://www.swamij.com/upanishad-brihadaranyaka.htm
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Why does the Quran call women a tilth for man? by Waqar Akbar Cheema: http://letmeturnthetables.blogspot.com/2008/06/why-quran-calls-women-tilth-for-men.html
Examples from Hindu Scriptures
Mr. Agniveer if you are calling this vulgarity, I am afraid you are condemning your own books. Even Manu Smriti refers women as tilths and men as seeds in Chapter 4, Sholkas 49-56. Also read what Yajurveda has to say as per Swami Dayanand Saraswati.
O people, as an ox increases the livestock by impregnating the cows, similarly, men of the family impregnate their wives to increase their progeny. [Yajurved 28:32]
Will the readers of porn literature understand this?
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The translation is wrong. This is the arabic part: وَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا، فَإِنَّهُنَّ عِنْدَكُمْ عَوَانٍ
"Treat women well, for they are with you as helpers.” Tabari 3/151 Section: The LastSermon
The word used here is عَوَانٍ It is mentioned in Al Mufradaat الْعَوْنُ: المُعَاوَنَةُ والمظاهرة one who helps and supports Mufradat 1/598
It is mentioned in Misbah al Lughat
العون-مص-مدد كزنا-مدد گار-...(واحد جمع مزكر مونث سب كے ليے مستعمل ہے)ج
اعوان
Al-Awn meaning-Doing help- helper-care taker (It can be use for all Singular, plural, Male, Female) C
Awaan [Misbah ul Lughat Arabic to urdu dictionary1/561 maktabah quddusiyah]
And this Narration is also in “Durr Manthur” Urdu edition vol.2 page 365 under Chapter 4 verse 19 translated by Syed Muhammad Iqbal Shah, Muhammad Bostan, Muhammad Anwar Magghalwi published by Zia ul Quran publications November 2006 Lahore
And the translators translated as (Roman Urdu) “"Tumhare paas tumhari auraten tumhari madadgaar hain, tum ne unhen Allah ki amaan me lia hai,"
Translation "You have your women with you as helpers. you have taken them on the security of Allah”
Some people translated the word as prisoners like innocent prisoners fear from some merciless guards as Ibn al-Sayyidah said: والعَواني النساءُ لأَنَّهُنَّ يُظْلَمْنَ فلا يَنْتَصِرْنَ
Mu’aawiyah ibn Haydah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, what are the rights of the wife of any one of us over us?’ He said, ‘That you feed her when you feed yourself and clothe her when you clothe yourself, that you do not say to her, “May Allaah make your face ugly!”, and that you do not hit her or separate yourself from her except in the house..’” (Reported by Ahmad (20025) and Abu Dawood (2137); Ibn Maajah, 1850 Al-Albaani said concerning this hadeeth in Saheeh Abi Dawood: (it is) hasan saheeh.).
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Prophet peace be upon him said: "A well-dressed (soul) in this world may be naked in the Hereafter." (Bukhari Volume 9, Kitab al Fitan (Book of Afflictions and the End of the World), Number 189)
Let us understand the above hadith with the help of another hadith
AbuHuraira reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) having said this: Two are the types of the denizens of Hell whom I did not see: people having flogs like the tails of the ox with them and they would be beating people, and the women who would be dressed but appear to be naked, who would be inclined (to evil) and make their husbands incline towards it. [Sahih Muslim Book #024, Hadith #5310]
Ibn 'Abd al-Barr said: what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) meant was women who wear clothes made of light fabric which describes and does not cover. They are clothed in name but naked in reality. Transmitted by al-Suyooti in Tanweer al-Hawaalik, 3/103.
Shaykh Abdul Aziz Bin Baz May Allah be please with him commented "kaasiyat 'aariyaat (translated above as "dressed but appear to be naked" may have another meaning, which is that they are enjoying the blessings of Allaah, but they do not give thanks for them and they do not obey the commands of Allaah or heed His prohibitions, even though Allaah has bestowed upon them wealth and other blessings.
The hadeeth is also explained in a different manner, which is that they wear clothes that do not cover them, because they are too thin or too short, so they do not serve the purpose of clothes, hence they are described as naked, and because the clothes they wear do not cover their ‘awrah.
Maa’ilaat (literally “deviant”) means they turn away from chastity and righteousness, i.e., they commit sins and evil deeds like those who do immoral actions, or they fall short in doing the obligatory duties, prayer etc.
Mumeelaat means they turn others away, i.e., they call people to evil and corruption, so by their words and actions they lead others into immorality and sin, and they commit immoral actions because of their lack of faith or the weakness of their faith. The point of this saheeh hadeeth is to warn against oppression and all kinds of corruption from men and women. Majmoo' Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi'ah li'l-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 6/355
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This is the complete hadith:
Narrated 'Aisha: We set out with the Prophet with the intention of performing Hajj only. The Prophet reached Mecca and performed Tawaf of the Ka'ba and between Safa and Marwa and did not finish the Ihram, because he had the Hadi with him. His companions and his wives performed Tawaf (of the Ka'ba and between Safa and Marwa), and those who had no Hadi with them finished their Ihram. I got the menses and performed all the ceremonies of Hajj. So, when the Night of Hasba (night of departure) came, I said, "O Allah's Apostle! All your companions are returning with Hajj and 'Umra except me." He asked me, "Didn't you perform Tawaf of the Ka'ba (Umra) when you reached Mecca?" I said, "No." He said, "Go to Tan'im with your brother 'Abdur-Rahman, and assume Ihram for 'Umra and I will wait for you at such and such a place." So I went with 'Abdur-Rahman to Tan'im and assumed Ihram for 'Umra. Then Safiya bint Huyay got menses. The Prophet said, " 'Aqra Halqa! You will detain us! Didn't you perform Tawaf-al-Ifada on the Day of Nahr (slaughtering)?" She said, "Yes, I did." He said, "Then there is no harm, depart." So I met the Prophet when he was ascending the heights towards Mecca and I was descending, or vice-versa [Bukhari Kitab al Hajj no: 815]
The words used by Prophet peace be upon him are Aqra Halqa, Islambasics Library: Dictionary says
AQRA HALQA: It is just an exclamatory expression, the literal meaning of which is not meant always. It expresses disapproval. http://www.islambasics.com/view.php?bkID=999999&chapter=1
Read the commentaries here
a) Fath ul Bari Commentary of Sahih Bukhari http://hadith.al-islam.com/Page.aspx?pageid=192&TOCID=1126&BookID=33&PID=3228
b) Sahih Muslim with commentary of an Nawawi http://www.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?bk_no=53&ID=532&idfrom=3506&idto=3552&bookid=53&startno=13
c) Hashiyah as Sindee of Ibn Majah http://www.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?flag=1&bk_no=54&ID=5678
In Summary, this is a type of statements that is said in form of duaa that Arabs uses but do not mean it to happen. It is similar when Arabs praise someone and says, "May Allah fight him, how brave he is!". They do not invoke Allah against him but this is a form of language used and the phrase said by the Prophet in this hadeeth is known to be one of those types of statement.
Even if someone is not accepting the truth; let me quote a beautiful hadith
Imam Ahmad recorded that 'Amr bin Abi Qurrah Al-Kindi said: "Hudhayfah was in Al-Mada'in and he was mentioning things that the Messenger of Allah had said. Hudhayfah came to Salman and Salman said: 'O Hudhayfah, the Messenger of Allah ﴿would sometimes be angry and would speak accordingly, and would sometimes be pleased and would speak accordingly. I know that the Messenger of Allah ﴾ addressed us and said: (Any man of my Ummah whom I have insulted or cursed when I was angry -- for I am a man from among the sons of Adam, and I get angry just as you do. But Allah has sent me as a Mercy to the Worlds, so I will make that my anger﴾ into blessings for him on the Day of Resurrection.'') This was also recorded by Abu Dawud from Ahmad bin Yunus from Za'idah.(end quote from Tafsir Ibn Katheer 21: 107)
Prophet peace be upon him said “ “I have been sent as a blessing, not a curse.”
Please read about the character of the Prophet peace be upon him here: (http://islamqa.com/en/ref/71184/)
Prophet peace be upon him said: "I eat as a slave eats and I sit as a slave sits."[Narrated by Abu Ya'laa, 8/318,Silsilat al-Saheehah, 544.]
Let us have a look at how the Vedic gods address their wives. Indra Ji is addressing Indrani ji.:
Dame with the lovely hands and arms, with broad hair-plaits and huge hips, Why, O thou hero's wife, art thou angry with our Vrishākapi? Supreme is Indra over all. [Atharvaved 20:126:8]
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Sukainah the daughter of Shaikh al-Albaani said, "I asked my father, may Allaah have mercy on him, 'How does the female who has the excuse accorded to her by the Sharee'ah [i.e., menses] perform worship on the Night of Decree?'
So he answered me, saying, 'By supplicating, remembering Allaah [dhikr] and reciting the Quraan, and there is no problem in her doing that. And I think that you are sure about the fact that it is not disliked for the menstruating woman to recite the Quraan. So this is the way out from one angle.
And from another, it is fitting for the Muslim in such circumstances, whether he is male or female, to emulate the Prophet عليه السلام who said, 'Seize the benefit of five before five: your youth before you become old, and your health before you become ill ...' [Saheeh at-Targheeb wat-Tarheeb, no. 3355]. For what reason [did he say this?] Because in Sahih al-Bukhari it has been reported that, 'When a slave [a believer] falls ill or travels, then he will get written to his accounts [the reward] similar to that which he used to get for his good deeds practised at home and in good health [as if he is doing them on his journey and in illness].' [Bukhaari 2996]
So it is upon such a woman to seize the opportunity of benefitting from her time when she is clean and is able to stand during the last ten nights, or at least the odd nights, or at the very least the day or night of the twenty-seventh.
For indeed when Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, knows that His female servant used to do that when she was able to stand in prayer then suddenly comes into a state where she is excused, He records for her what used to be written for her when she was in a state of purity.
This is a very important point. Its fruits are that the Muslim should strive as was just explained: that he should always spend his time in obedience as much as he is able to. Such that when his obedience increases and the worship then passes him by [due to him becoming ill or travelling, the reward] is still written for him even if he is not able to actually perform it.'"
Source: http://shaikhalbaani.wordpress.com/2011/07/09/how-does-a-menstruating-woman-worship-during-the-night-of-decree/
She will be rewarded for not praying during their periods. Allah says “Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter).” [016:097]
And following command (that do not pray in periods) of Allah and his Prophet peace be upon him is righteousness and in result of Righteousness she will surely be rewarded.
It is mentioned in Sharah al Muslim An-Nawawi 4/26 :
هَذَا الْحُكْم ـ أي عدم قضاء الصلاة ـ مُتَّفَق عَلَيْهِ أَجْمَع الْمُسْلِمُونَ عَلَى أَنَّ الْحَائِض وَالنُّفَسَاء لا تَجِب عَلَيْهِمَا الصَّلاة وَلا الصَّوْم فِي الْحَال , وَأَجْمَعُوا عَلَى أَنَّهُ لا يَجِب عَلَيْهِمَا قَضَاء الصَّلَاة , وَأَجْمَعُوا عَلَى أَنَّهُ يَجِب عَلَيْهِمَا قَضَاء الصَّوْم ، قَالَ الْعُلَمَاء : وَالْفَرْق بَيْنهمَا أَنَّ الصَّلاة كَثِيرَة مُتَكَرِّرَة فَيَشُقّ قَضَاؤُهَا بِخِلافِ الصَّوْم .
“This ruling – i.e., that prayers should not be made up) is agreed upon by all the Muslims, that menstruating women and women who bleed following childbirth do not have to pray or fast at the times when prayers or fasts are due; they are unanimously agreed that they do not have to make up the prayers, and they are unanimously agreed that they do have to make up the fasts. The scholars said, the difference between them is that the prayers are many and are repeated, so it would be difficult to make them up, unlike the fasts.
Shaykh Salman al Odha said:
These are matters of Islamic Law. A woman is neither sinful nor blameworthy because of the prayers and fasts that she misses. She, in fact, receives blessings by obeying Allah and abstaining from those acts while she is menstruating. Her testimony as a witness is half that of men only in matters wherein she is generally less versed than men. In other matters wherein women have particular knowledge, like fosterage and virginity, the testimony of a woman is accepted but not that of a man.
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) attested to the perfect character of four women: Mary, Âsiyah the wife of Pharaoh, Fâtimah, and Khadîjah. He definitely did not mean that these women did not go through menstruation. He was referring to their good character, strength of intellect, and soundness of opinion (end)
And on the other hand Males have to pray in a mosque and if he leaves the prayer, it is one of the biggest sins.
To understand the meaning of this hadeeth (specially deficiency) please go through this detailed reply by Scholars: http://truthofhinduism.com/islam/women-defficient-intelligence-religion-answer/
Counter Question: It is mentioned in Rigved Mandal 8, Sookt 33, Mantra 17 censures women by saying, "Indra himself hath said, The mind of woman brooks not discipline, Her intellect hath little weight."
Comment: Agniveer should see their own scriptures rather then copy/pasting from the internet.
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Sharah Sahih Muslim an-Nawawi says: “This is to be understood as referring to voluntary and recommended fasts for which there is no specific time. It is understood as meaning that this is prohibited, as our companions stated. The reason for that is that the husband has the right to intimacy with his wife on all days, and his right is to be implemented immediately, and cannot be deferred because of voluntary acts of worship or because of an obligatory deed that may be done at any time.” Sharh Muslim, 7/115.
Islam QA Fatwa no: 66621 says
The husband has to fear Allaah with regard to his wife, and not burden her with more than she can bear. Many men keep their womenfolk busy all day with cooking, and at night with making sweets, so the woman’s days and nights are wasted and she cannot make the most of her fasting days or her nights by doing acts of worship. One of the wife’s rights over her husband is that she should have a share of the worship of this month. So he should not prevent her from reading Qur’aan, or praying qiyaam. There should be understanding between them so that there will not be any conflict between his rights and her worship of her Lord. This, of course, has to do with naafil acts of worship; with regard to obligatory acts of worship, the husband has no right to stop his wife doing them.
The way of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with his wives was to encourage them to worship and obey Allaah, especially in the last ten days of Ramadaan.
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “When the (last) ten nights began, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would tighten his waist-wrapper (i.e., strive hard in worship or refrain from intimacy with his wives), stay awake at night and wake his family.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1920) and Muslim (1174).
If both, husband and wife, understand their rights and duties, they will avoid difficulties and arguments in most cases. If they understand that such occasions will only recur a few times during their lives, this should make them keener to make the most of the days and nights of Ramadaan.(end quote)
Comment: In short, this is only for voluntary (Nafal) fasts and only when the husband is staying with the wife. Obeying the husband is obligatory as far as husband is not saying something which goes against Islamic law. Women will get more rewards in obeying the husband. Secondly most husbands do not prevent their wives from fasting the nawafil fasts. When a woman gets her husband's permission for voluntary fasting she attains a lot of blessings. When a woman obeys her husband she shows the true spirit of Islamic marriage.
http://letmeturnthetables.blogspot.com/2009/01/why-are-women-required-to-seek-husbands.html
Counter question: It is written in Rig Veda: "There cannot be any friendship with a woman. Her heart is like that of a hyena." [Rig Veda, 10/95/15]
Comment: Agniveer should read the Veda before attacking Islam. One can compare the Islamic teachings and the teachings of Hinduism. According to Islam, both husband and wife have similar rights but a Husband has to be more responsible because he has to feed her, clother her, provide for her, etc, on the other hand Hinduism says her heart is like the heart of a HYENA? And hence we can not befriend them?
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http://letmeturnthetables.blogspot.com/2009/01/does-islam-equate-women-with-animals.html
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Even the husband is forbidden to take his wife’s money without her consent.
Allaah says
“and live with them honorably” [al-Nisa’ 4:19]
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allaah is All-Mighty, All-Wise”[al-Baqarah 2:228]
A husband has to take care of his wife and if he does not take care, then the wife is allowed to take money from her husband even without his permission.
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: “Hind bint ‘Utbah, the wife of Abu Sufyaan, entered upon the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, Abu Sufyaan is a stingy man who does not spend enough on me and my children, except for what I take from his wealth without his knowledge. Is there any sin on me for doing that?’ The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘Take from his wealth on a reasonable basis, only what is sufficient for you and your children.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5049; Muslim, 1714)
Counter question: The Krishna Yajur Veda says:
Women are without energy. They should not get a share in the property. Even to the wicked, they speak in a feeble manner. [Krishna Yajur Veda vi. 5. 8. 2]
A wife has no claim to property of her husband. The wealth that she earns is not her but her husband's. [Manu Smriti Chapter 8, Sholka 416]
Comment: Islam allows women to take money from their husband's wealth if he does not provide for her. If a woman is working, the money she earns is solely her's and the husband has no right on it. If she wants to give it to the husband she can and if she doesn't want to do so then it remains her's. However in Hinduism that's not the case. Even if SHE earns it by working hard, her husband gets to keep it.
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Let us understand why this verse was revealed
Jabir reported that 'Abdullah b. Ubayy b. Salul used to say to his slavegirl: Go and fetch something for us by committing prostitution.
It was in this connection that Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, revealed this verse:
"And compel not your slave-girls to prostitution when they desire to keep chaste in order to seek the frail goods of this world's life, and whoever compels them, then surely after their compulsion Allah is Forgiving, Merciful" (xxiv. 33).
[Sahih Muslim Book 43, Number 7180 Chapter 4: COMPEL NOT YOUR SLAVE-GIRLS TO PROSTITUTION]
Ibn e Kathir says
Among the people of the Jahiliyyah, there were some who, if he had a slave-girl, he would send her out to commit Zina and would charge money for that, which he would take from her every time. When Islam came, Allah forbade the believers to do that. The reason why this Ayah was revealed, according to the reports of a number of earlier and later scholars of Tafsir, had to do with `Abdullah bin Ubayy bin Salul. He had slave-girls whom he used to force into prostitution so that he could take their earnings and because he wanted them to have children which would enhance his status, or so he claimed.(Commentary of Ibne Kathir 24:24)
Comment: The word 'force' is used because the slaves were forced to make money, However the ayah does not say that if they do not desire chastity then you are free to force them into prostitution.
Prostitution is prohibited. The Prophet peace be upon him said:
«مَهْرُ الْبَغِيِّ خَبِيثٌ
(The earnings of a prostitute are evil, (Mishkaat al Masabeeh hadeeth no: 2763,2764,2765)
‘Abd-Allaah ibn Maghfal reported that there was a woman who had been a prostitute during the days of ignorance (before Islam). A man passed by her, or she passed by him, and he touched her. She said: “Stop it!. Allaah has done away with shirk and had brought Islam.” So he left her alone and went away. (Reported by al-Haakim, who said this hadeeth is saheeh according to the conditions of Muslim, although they did not report it).
Above ahadeeth clarify that prostitution is prohibited.
Counter Question: A girl without a brother is called Abhratr and it is prohibited to marry such a girl.
The Atharva Ved says, Those maidens there, the veins, who run their course in robes of ruddy hue, must now stand quiet, reft of power, like sisters who are brotherless. [Atharva Ved Kaand 1, Sookt 17, Mantra 1]
Explaining this, Nirukt, which is the oldest Indian treatise on Etymology, Philology and Semantics, says,
They stand like women who have no brother, and whose path is obstructed with regard to procreation and the offering of the sacrificial cake. With these words the simile implies the prohibition of marrying a brotherless maiden.[Nirukt 3:4]
Comment: Islam has place for a prostitute who has repented and she can marry an honourable man. However, Hinduism takes away the right of a woman to marry if she does not have a brother.
Slave women to be gifted as per Vedas: Two wagon-teams, with damsels, twenty oxen, O Agni, Abhydvartin Cayamdna, The liberal Sovran, giveth me. This guerdon of Prthu's seed is hard to win from others. [Rig Veda – 6:27:8]
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Let us go throught the context of The Noble Qur'an - An-Nur 24:4-9
[024:004] And those who launch a charge against chaste women, and produce not four witnesses (to support their allegations),- flog them with eighty stripes; and reject their evidence ever after: for such men are wicked transgressors;-
[024:005] Unless they repent thereafter and mend (their conduct); for God is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
[024:006] And for those who launch a charge against their spouses, and have (in support) no evidence but their own,- their solitary evidence (can be received) if they bear witness four times (with an oath) by God that they are solemnly telling the truth;
[024:007] And the fifth (oath) (should be) that they solemnly invoke the curse of God on themselves if they tell a lie.
[024:008] But it would avert the punishment from the wife, if she bears witness four times (with an oath) By God, that (her husband) is telling a lie;
[024:009] And the fifth (oath) should be that she solemnly invokes the wrath of God on herself if (her accuser) is telling the truth.
Allah also says
[024:023] Those who slander chaste women, indiscreet but believing, are cursed in this life and in the Hereafter: for them is a grievous Penalty,-
[024:024] On the Day when their tongues, their hands, and their feet will bear witness against them as to their actions.
The Prophet said: "Avoid the seven great destructive sins." They (the people) asked, "O Allah's Messenger! What are they?" He said,
"To join partners in worship with Allah,
to practise sorcery;
to kill the life which Allah has forbidden except for a just cause (according to Islamic law);
to eat up Riba' (usury);
to eat up the property of an orphan;
to show one's back to the enemy and fleeing from the battle-field at the time of fighting and
to accuse chaste women who never even think of anything touching their chastity and are good believers." (Hadith Bukhari 8:840, Narrated Abu Huraira:)
Brother Bassam Zawadi rightly said
According to the judgment of the Glorious Quran, if a man accuses his wife of committing adultery, the wife can nullify the accusation as her testimony is accepted, consequently, the wife will not be punished. However, if the accuser is not her husband, then he has to bring four witnesses. If not, he will receive eighty lashes and his testimony will be rejected forever.
Look at how the Quran uplifts the woman!
Source: http://www.answering-christianity.com/bassam_zawadi/witnesses.htm
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This is the hadith: The Prophet said to his wives, "You are allowed to go out to answer the call of nature. " (Bukhari Volume 1, Book 4, Number 149: Narrated 'Aisha:)
Comment: I don’t know what is the problem in this hadeeth?
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No where does the hadith say “their decisions will not be comparable to a man’s”
If women are deficient then why did the sahaba ask help from the mother of the believers??? Not only this, but there are evidences where women correct the Sahaba including Umar bin Al Khattab (RA). Umar (RA) was amongst the most knowledgeable sahaba and he was khalifatul Muslimeen (Caliph of the muslims)
In fact wives of the Prophet peace be upon him advised him!
a) Umm Salma, the wife of the Prophet (peace be upon him) advised the Prophet (Peace be upon him)
It is mentioned in Sealed Nectar: When the peace treaty had been concluded, the Prophet (Peace be upon him) ordered his Companions to slaughter their sacrificial animals, but they were too depressed to do that. The Prophet (Peace be upon him) gave instructions in this regard three times but with negative response. He told his wife Umm Salamah about this attitude of his Companions. She advised that he himself take the initiative, slaughter his animal and have his head shaved. Seeing that, the Muslims, with rended hearts, started to slaughter their animals and shave their heads. They even almost killed one another because of their distress. The Prophet (Peace be upon him) prayed three times for those who shaved their heads and once for those who cut their hair... (Sealed Nectar by Shaykh Safi ur Rahman Egnlish translation page 155)
Comment: How beautiful was the advice of Umm Salmah (RA)! The Prophet peace be upon him never said, "Oh, you are a woman and you're deficient. Rather, he follower her advice!"
b) The Prophet (peace be upon him) himself, sought his wife, Zainab (RA)'s advice.
It is mentioned in Bukhari Aisha further said: Allah's Apostle also asked Zainab bint Jahsh about my case. He said, "O Zainab! What have you seen?" She replied, "O Allah's Apostle! I protect my hearing and my sight (by refraining from telling lies). I know nothing but good (about Aisha)." Of all the wives of Allah's Apostle, it was Zainab who aspired to receive from him the same favor as I used to receive, yet, Allah saved her (from telling lies) because of her piety. [Bukhari Book #60, Hadith #274] (end quote)
C) Prophet peace be upon him himself said: "Verily women are the twin halves of men." [Abu Dawood #234 , Tirmidhi #113 ]
Comment: So this clears the hadith provided by agniveer. It does not mean that women are deficient and IF for the sake of argument, we agree that women are deficient then (A woman is overloaded by being a mother or a babysitter or pregnancy. All these careers are round the clock)
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Read articles on this issue in detail
a). A beautiful and detailed Article by brother Kevin Abdullah Karim (a revert): http://www.answering-christianity.com/karim/women_not_deficient_in_intelligence_and_religion.htm
b). http://islam.thetruecall.com/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=212
c) A beautiful response by brother Bassam Zawadi in his article 'The Testimony of Women In The Bible' http://www.answering-christianity.com/bassam_zawadi/witnesses.htm
d) 'The Status Of Women In Islam' by Sh. Yusuf Al-Qaradawi where he discussed this issue:http://www.jannah.org/sisters/qaradawistatus.html
e) An Article by a young Muslim Debater Waqar Akbar Cheema http://letmeturnthetables.blogspot.com/2009/06/why-hadith-says-that-women-are.html
f) 'Women Scholars/Knowledgeable' http://www.idealmuslimah.com/personalities/women-scholars-knowledgeable
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Refer the answer to point no: 22 and 23
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Refer the reply to point no: 1
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These are abrogated verses, the reply to this can be read here:
http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/answering-islam-website/210-brutal-punishment-for-women
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1. The translation is wrong. This is the Arabic
فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ أَذِنَ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضاجِعِ
، وَتَضْرِبُوهُنَّ ضَرْبًا غَيْرَ مُبَرِّحٍ، فَإِنِ انْتَهَيْنَ فَلَهُنَّ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ
No where above does the verse in Arabic say "permits you to shut them (wives) in separate rooms and to beat them" but it says "Allah permits you to refuse to share their beds”
2. He left the context. It says
أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ، فَإِنَّ لَكُمْ عَلَى نِسَائِكُمْ حَقًّا وَلَهُنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ حَقًّا، لَكُمْ عَلَيْهِنَّ أَلا يُوطِئْنَ فُرُشَكُمْ أَحَدًا تَكْرَهُونَهُ، وَعَلَيْهِنَّ أَلا يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُبَيِّنَةٍ، فَإِنْ فَعَلْنَ
The same is mentioned in Sahih Muslim and it says, narrated from Jaabir that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in his Farewell Sermon:
"Fear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely(another hadith says but without causing injury or leaving a mark.). Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner" (Narrated by Muslim, 1218)
We ask the author, whether any non Muslim husband would permit his wife to allow any other person whom he does not like on their bed? Look at the beauty of Islam.Even then it says, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds (In refusing to share the bed, even the husband is deprived), (and last) beat them lightly, if it is useful. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner" and even then the Islamic Scholars says that It is better not to hit. Mentioned in Sharah Muslim 15/84
Subhan'Allah
Comment: Agniveer has been deceived with respect to the translation. He may have copied it from anti Islamic websites without verifying it.
18. Aisha said: Prophet struck me on the chest which caused me pain, and then Prophet said: Did you think that Allah and His Apostle would deal unjustly with you?…[Muslim, book 4, hadith-2127]
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So striking the wife on her chest by Muslims is justified as per Allah and Muhammad (PBUH).
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Here is the complete hadith
Muhammad b. Qais said (to the people): Should I not narrate to you (a hadith of the Holy Prophet) on my authority and on the authority of my mother? We thought that he meant the mother who had given him birth. He (Muhammad b. Qais) then reported that it was 'A'isha who had narrated this: Should I not narrate to you about myself and about the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him)? We said: Yes. She said: When it was my turn for Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) to spend the night with me, he turned his side, put on his mantle and took off his shoes and placed them near his feet, and spread the corner of his shawl on his bed and then lay down till he thought that I had gone to sleep. He took hold of his mantle slowly and put on the shoes slowly, and opened the door and went out and then closed it lightly. I covered my head, put on my veil and tightened my waist wrapper, and then went out following his steps till he reached Baqi'. He stood there and he stood for a long time. He then lifted his hands three times, and then returned and I also returned He hastened his steps and I also hastened my steps. He ran and I too ran. He came (to the house) and I also came (to the house). I, however, preceded him and I entered (the house), and as I lay down in the bed, he (the Holy Prophet) entered the (house), and said: Why is it, O 'A'isha, that you are out of breath? I said: There is nothing. He said: Tell me or the Subtle and the Aware would inform me. I said: Messenger of Allah, may my father and mother be ransom for you, and then I told him (the whole story). He said: Was it the darkness (of your shadow) that I saw in front of me? I said: Yes. He struck me on the chest which caused me pain, and then said: Did you think that Allah and His Apostle would deal unjustly with you? She said: Whatsoever the people conceal, Allah will know it. He said: Gabriel came to me when you saw me. He called me and he concealed it from you. I responded to his call, but I too concealed it from you (for he did not come to you), as you were not fully dressed. I thought that you had gone to sleep, and I did not like to awaken you, fearing that you may be frightened. He (Gabriel) said: Your Lord has commanded you to go to the inhabitants of Baqi' (to those lying in the graves) and beg pardon for them. I said: Messenger of Allah, how should I pray for them (How should I beg forgiveness for them)? He said: Say, Peace be upon the inhabitants of this city (graveyard) from among the Believers and the Muslims, and may Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us, and those who come later on, and we shall, God willing, join you.(end) [MUSLIM Book 004, Number 2127]
My Friend and Brother Dr Asif replied; "AS A DOCTOR I ANALYSED THIS HADITH. THE DISTANCE BETWEEN THE HOME OF AISHA R.A. & JANNATUL BAQI IS QUITE LONG.
NOW SEE THE BOLD PART OF HADITH IN BLUE,
AS AISHA R.A WAS AFRAID THAT PROPHET (peace be upon him) WILL COME TO KNOW SHE WAS FALLOWING HER, SO IN ORDER TO AVOID THIS SHE CAME RUNNING BACK TO HOME, IT IS A NATURAL PHYSIOLOGICAL PHENOMENON THAT WHEN A PERSON RUNS FOR A DISTANCE MORE THAN 100 meters, THE BODY RESPONDS WITH HYPERVENTILATION.
THE PERSON'S BREATHING IS FASTER, THE HEART RATE INCREASES & BLOOD PRESSURE INCREASES. IN SUCH A CONDITION IF YOU GIVE A SLIGHT PUSH ON THE CHEST, THE PERSON WILL FEEL PAIN. YOU MAY EXPERIMENT IT YOURSELF TO FIND OUT EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENS.
IN THE ABOVE HADITH PROPHET SAAS JUST GAVE A PUSH TO AISHA R.A & SHE FELT PAIN .....”
Moreover Aaishah (Radhiallahu 'Anha) herself said: Allaah's Messenger (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) never hit anything with his hand ever, except when fighting in the path of Allaah. Nor did he ever hit a servant or a woman." [Recorded by Musnad Ishaq bin Rahwiy no: 698, Ibn Maajah Kitab al Nikah hadeeth no: 1984 Al-Albaanee said it is Saheeh.]
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Source of Musnad Ishaq: http://www.islamweb.net/hadith/display_hbook.php?bk_no=101&hid=698&pid=26710
Source of Ibne Majah:http://hadith.al-islam.com/Page.aspx?pageid=192&TOCID=653&BookID=35&PID=3687
Lastly, Brother Kevin Abdullah has given a beautiful explanation here: http://www.quransearch.com/karim/mistranslations_of_hadiths.htm
He has put across many points in his article, one of which is the term used in the hadith which is: Lahada.
Imam Nawawi in his Sharh states that: The word "lahada" according to the lexicographers means, "to push" (dafa'a).(End quote for details see his full article)
This makes it clear that the Prophet (peace be upon him) neither beat his wives nor any other woman.
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This Hadith is not authentic because Abdul Rahman al Muslee is weak in the chain & no one said he is trustworthy.
Sayings of scholars regarding this hadith:
Please check the detailed reply in http://www.islamqa.com/ar/ref/146600
Authentic hadith which clears the anti-islamic claim:
Muawiyah al Qarshi said I went to the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives? He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them. (Abu Dawud Book 11, Number 2139)
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Dr. Hatem al-Haj states in his article 'Concubines & Slavery The Islamic Position'
And for one who humiliates his slave by beating him or slapping him, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,
"من لَطَمَ مَمْلُوآَهُ أو ضَرَبَهُ فَكَفَّارَتُهُ أَنْ يُعْتِقَهُ"
“He who slaps his slave or beats him, there is no expiation for this but to free him.” (reported by Muslim).
Because of the aforementioned examples of the divine and prophetic instructions regarding slavery, no other nation or religious group in the world treated slaves better than the Muslims did, and here are the testimonies of the non-Muslim historians and leaders regarding this very fact: (quotations from http://www.alislam. org/slavery/)
i) On the attitude of Muslim master with his slaves, Will Durant says, "...he handled them with a genial humanity that made their lot no worse - perhaps better, as more secure - than that of a factory worker in nineteenth-century Europe." http://www.alislam.org/slavery/3.htm#r21, Hurgronje C., Mohammedanism,(N.Y., 1916), p.128 as quoted by W. Durant, The Story of Civilization, vol.IV (N.Y., 1950), p. 209.
ii) At the end of the 18th century, Mouradgea d'Ohsson (a main source of information for the Western writers on the Ottoman empire) declared: "There is perhaps no nation where the captives, the slaves, the very toilers in the galleys are better provided for or treated with more kindness than among the Muhammedans. " http://www.alislam. org/slavery/3.htm#r22, As quoted in The Encyclopaedia of Islam, vol.I, p. 35.
iii) P. L Riviere writes: "A master was enjoined to make his slave share the bounties he received from God. It must be recognised that, in this respect, the Islamic teaching acknowledged such a respect for human personality and showed a sense of equality which is searched for in vain in ancient civilization" http://www.al-islam.org/slavery/3.htm#r23, Riviere P.L., Revue Bleaue (June 1939).
iv) Napoleon Bonaparte is recorded as saying about the condition of slaves in Muslim countries: "The slave inherits his master's property and marries his daughter. The majority of the Pashas had been slaves. Many of the grand viziers, all the Mamelukes, Ali Ben Mourad Beg, had been slaves. They began their lives by performing the most menial services in the houses of their masters and were subsequently raised in status for their merit or by favour. In the West, on the contrary, the slave has always been below the position of the domestic servants; he occupies the lowest rug. The Romans emancipated their slaves, but the emancipated were never considered as equal to the free-born. The ideas of the East and West are so different that it took a long time to make the Egyptians understand that all the army was not composed of slaves belonging to the Sultan al-Kabir. " http://www.al-islam.org/slavery/3.htm#r25, Bonaparte et l'Islam (Paris, 1914)....
Dr. Hatem al-Haj further goes on
• The families are not disrupted in the Islamic wars.
• The captives are usually returned as a show of kindness, exchanged for Muslim captives or money.
• In the case they were taken as slave women, they were taken by one man.
They were considered legitimate partners with rights guaranteed for them and their offspring who were treated exactly like the man's other children.
How is that like the gang raping in the battlefield by scores of soldiers?
• Such women were often freed and married their masters and if not, and had a child, they had a special status and became unsellable and became free upon the death of the master.
• Such women prospered.
They bore and raised children who became khaleefas, sultans, princes, great leaders and scholars in the history of Islam.
That is an indication on how they were treated.
Source: http://www.amjaonline.com/en_d_details.php?id=285
Lastly A slave can be a leader:
a) Narrated Anas bin Malik: Allah's Apostle said, "You should listen to and obey, your ruler even if he was an Ethiopian (black) slave whose head looks like a raisin." (Bukhari Book #89, Hadith #256)
b) Abu Dharr reported: My friend (the Holy Prophet) bade me to hear and obey (the ruler) even if he is a slave having his feet and arms cut off, and observe prayer at its prescribed time. (And further said): It you find people having observed the prayer, you in fact saved your prayer, otherwise (if you join with them) that would be a Nafl prayer for you. (Muslim, Book #004, Hadith #1355)
c) Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah: Umar used to say, "Abu Bakr is our chief, and he manumitted our chief," meaning Bilal (he was a black slave and Abu baker manumitted him). (Bukhari Book #57, Hadith #98)
Also go through:
a) http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/abul-kasem/233-refuting-muhammad-raped-captured-woman-and-encouraged-others
b) http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/answering-islam-website/208-muslim-men-can-capture-infidel-women-as-sex-slave-booty
Comment: When beating a SLAVE is not allowed, then how can it be allowed for a wife? The Prophet (peace be upon him) was educating Muslims and prohibiting the act of beating, because it was common for people to beat their slaves. However, Islam stopped this practice.
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This hadith is regarding raising children.
Imam Al-Minaawi said: “For a father to discipline his child when he reaches the age of discernment means that he should raise him with the characteristics of the righteous believers and protect him from mixing with evildoers; he should teach him the Qur’aan and good manners and the language of the Arabs, let him hear the Sunnah and the sayings of the Salaf and teach him the religious rulings that he cannot do without. He should warn him then smack him if he does not pray etc. That will be better for him than giving a saa’ in charity, because if he teaches him properly, his actions will be among his ongoing charity, whereas the reward for a saa’ of charity is limited, but that will last as long as the child lives. Discipline is the nourishment of the soul, and training it for the Hereafter.
“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell)…” [al-Tahreem 66:6]
Protecting yourself and your family from it means reminding them of Hell. Discipline includes preaching, warning, threatening, smacking, detaining, giving and being kind. Disciplining one who is good and noble is different from disciplining one who is difficult and ignoble.[Fayd al-Qadeer, 5/257]
Commentary of Ibne Kathir says under 66:6
There is a Hadith that confirms the meaning of this Ayah. Ahmad, Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi recorded that Ar-Rabi` bin Sabrah said that his father said that the Messenger of Allah said,
«مُرُوا الصَّبِيَّ بِالصَّلَاةِ إِذَا بَلَغَ سَبْعَ سِنِينَ، فَإِذَا بَلَغَ عَشْرَ سِنِينَ فَاضْرِبُوهُ عَلَيْهَا»
(Order the children to pray when they reach the age of seven and when they reach the age of ten, discipline them for (not performing) it.) This is the narration that Abu Dawud collected; At-Tirmidhi said, "This Hadith is Hasan.''
Islamqa Fatwa no: 10016
So raising children should be a balance between encouragement and warning. The most important element of all is making the environment in which the children live a good one, by providing the means whereby they may be guided; this means that their educators should be religiously committed, including their parents.
Comment: Thus the context is clear and there is no problem in the hadeeth and Islamic law.
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The phrase “and he spends the night angry with her” refers to the cause of the angels’ curse, because this confirms that she is a sinner, which is a different matter than if he accepts her excuse and is not angry with her, or lets the matter drop. Is she to blame if he keeps her away from his bed? The answer is: no, unless she is the one who started the separation and he is keeping away from her because of it, and she did not apologize but prolonged the separation. But if he is the one who started it, and is thus treating her unfairly, then she is not to blame. In one report, instead of the words “the angels curse her until morning,” the wording is “… until she returns” – and this is a useful variant.
(Adapted and abbreviated from the commentary by al-Haafiz Ibn Hijr – may Allaah have mercy on him – on this hadeeth in Fath al-Baari).
Comment: Islam makes a woman the ‘Queen of the House’ and gives her the responsibility of house affairs while man is made the manager of out-of-house matters. It’s the man who is made responsible for financial matters and thus it is he who is to stay out of the home and earn for his family. So while out, he is more likely to come around any woman and this may cause some emotional upheaval within him.
Holy Prophet (PBUH) said: “When one of you sees a woman, he should come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart.” (Sahih Muslim, Book of Marriage, Hadith 3240)
This is a very natural and rational solution to such a situation. If a man faces such a situation and his wife is denying him , it can cause serious problems especially when it becomes frequent. It is a known fact that men have less power to control their desire. It is for this reason that the Holy Prophet (PBUH) gave such a commandment.
Islam leaves no option for men and women to fulfill their desires except their spouses. The Quran says about the husband wife relation:
“They are your garments and ye are their garments.”{Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187}
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said “None of you should fall upon his wife like an animal”
Allah says: O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of the dower [money given by the husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness;on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good (Qu’ran An-nisa 19)
It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When the wife of any one of you asks for permission to go to the mosque, do not forbid her.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (4940) and Muslim (442).
Shaykh Salih al Munajjid said while commenting the hadith provided by agniveer
At the same time, the husband must show consideration towards his wife if she is sick, pregnant or depressed, so as to maintain harmony and prevent discontent or hatred.[Muharamat, Prohibitions that are taken too lightly, Chapter Not allowing one’s husband to have marital relations for no legitimate reason, English Translation Book by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid]
Al-Bahooti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:The husband has the right to enjoy his wife at any time, so long as that does not keep her from performing obligatory duties or harm her; he does not have the right to enjoy her in that case, because that is not part of living with them honourably. But if it does not distract her from that or cause her harm, then he has the right to enjoyment. End quote from Kashshaaf al-Qinaa' (5/189).
Comment: I don’t know why Agniveer is trying to make fights between husband and wife.
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What is Ibn Dawood? This is Translation and authentic reference
والذي نفس محمد بيده لا تؤدي المرأة حق ربها حتى تؤدي حق زوجها ولو سألها نفسها وهي على قتب لم تمنعه
By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman will fulfill her duty towards her Lord unless she fulfils her duty towards her husband, and if he asks her for herself when she is sitting on a saddle, she should not refuse him [Hadeeth reported by Ibn Maajah, 1843; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5239, 5295]
Below is an extract from the fatwa by Shaykh Salih al Munajjid in IslamQa fatwa no: 4601
Both husband and wife should submit themselves to the laws of Allaah, because this is where happiness lies.
Allaah says “… And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable…” [al-Baqarah 2:228]
So both spouses must treat the other kindly. Marriage is based on love, not on defiance or provocation, because these usually occur between enemies, and if they happen between people who love one another, they usually cause hatred and do the couple no good.
Allaah says “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy…” [al-Room 30:21]
‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf said: “The Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her modesty and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, “Enter Paradise through whichever gate of Paradise you wish.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 1573; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 660).
If the wife obeys her husband and treats him well for the sake of Allaah, she will earn a great reward with Allaah. By the same token, the man has to be patient with her, treat her well, win her over and teach her what his shar’i rights over her are.(end quote)
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Refer the reply to point no: 23
A wife should spend good time with her husband and so should the husband.
Vedic command for wives: The son shall be devoted to his father, be of the same mind with his mother; the wife shall speak honied, sweet, words to her husband! [ Atharva Veda 3:30:2)
I think agniveer wants us to expose the most obscene mantras of Vedas in front of the whole world. However, those mantras would make another article. So we leave them for now.
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Leaving a side his filthy comments see the beautiful reply by Brother Waqar Akbar Cheema reply here
http://letmeturnthetables.blogspot.com/2010/10/are-women-called-devils-in-hadith.html
Agniveer said “why not consider every woman a mother or sister except your wife, as written in Vedas?”
We don’t consider every woman a mother or a sister because in reality they are not our mother or sisters. Yes, in religious terms, all Muslims are our brothers and Sisters, But that does not make them real sisters (Who are our mahrum i.e to whom we can not marry). If agniveer considers every girl as a mother then can we say hindus consider their wives to be their mothers before marriage? And then they wed their own mother? This is a weird concept.
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The name of Sahabi is Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf and he was an emigrant from Makkah and he had nothing with himself, Sad bin Ar-Rabi' who was a rich man provided him full support with money, food and he said "The Ansar know that I am the richest of all of them, so I will divide my property into two parts between me and you, and I have two wives; see which of the two you like so that I may divorce her and you can marry her after she becomes lawful to you by her passing the prescribed period (i.e. 'Idda) of divorce. 'Abdur Rahman said, "May Allah bless you your family (i.e. wives) for you." (But 'Abdur-Rahman went to the market) and did not return on that day except with some gain of dried yogurt and butter. He went on trading just a few days till he came to Allah's Apostle bearing the traces of yellow scent over his clothes. Allah's Apostle asked him, "What is this scent?" He replied, "I have married a woman from the Ansar." Allah's Apostle asked, "How much Mahr have you given?" He said, "A date-stone weight of gold or a golden date-stone." The Prophet said, "Arrange a marriage banquet even with a sheep."[Bukhari Volume 5, Book 58, Number 125]
Comment: This hadith as agniveer claimed is regarding women but in fact it is regarding the love of a rich man with a poor man who was an emigrant of makkah. Agniveer has drawn the conclusion based on his assumption that the sahaba married one of the two wives of the other sahaba.
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This hadith is regarding the stipulations of marriage. The Prophet (peace be upon him) is ordering the men not to leave one's wife but to be with them. It is the right of the husband as well as the wifes to enjoy the married life. Maybe in Hinduism there are no rules and regulations regarding the life of husband and wife, that’s why agniveer finds this shameful.
It is mentioned in Commentary of Bukhari by Shaykh Mohammad Dawud Raz that it is obligatory on men to fulfil the stipulations he made while marrying that hewill not marry an other woman.(end quote)
He also said: “(Husband should) fulfil Each and every stipulation because hadith is clear except those which are aginst Qur`an and Sunnah) Commentary of Bukhari by Muhammad Dawud Raz Vol 4 page 193 checked by Shaykh Abdus Salam bastawi and Abdul Jabbar Salafi)
Comment: So generally this hadith is regarding stipulations.
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Leave aside Agniveer’s bad language against Muslims let us see the commentary of Ibne Kathir
This Ayah contains a command from Allah that the divorced woman, whose marriage was consummated and who still has menstruation periods, should wait for three (menstrual) periods (Quru') after the divorce and then remarry if she wishes.(he went on and said) Hence, the husband who divorces his wife can take her back, providing she is still in her `Iddah (time spent before a divorced woman or a widow can remarry) and that his aim, by taking her back, is righteous and for the purpose of bringing things back to normal. However, this ruling applies where the husband is eligible to take his divorced wife back. We should mention that (when this Ayah 2:228 was revealed), the ruling that made the divorce thrice and specified when the husband is ineligible to take his divorced wife back, had not been revealed yet. Previously, the man used to divorce his wife and then take her back even if he had divorced her a hundred separate times. Thereafter, Allah revealed the following Ayah (2:229) that made the divorce only thrice. So there was now a reversible divorce and an irreversible final divorce.(end quote)
Comment: Islam made the divorce thrice to prevent husbands to irritate their wives again and again. Secondly, little knowledge is always harmul. There is something like khula in Islam. If a Woman does not like her Husband she can leave him or if the marriage is against her will she can leave her husband.
Proof:1 Allah says: "If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such settlement is best; even though men's souls are swayed by greed. But if ye do good and practise self-restraint, God is well-acquainted with all that ye do. (The Noble Quran, 4:128)"
Proof 2: Narrated Al-Qasim: A woman from the offspring of Ja'far was afraid lest her guardian marry her (to somebody) against her will. So she sent for two elderly men from the Ansar, 'AbdurRahman and Mujammi', the two sons of Jariya, and they said to her, "Don't be afraid, for Khansa' bint Khidam was given by her father in marriage against her will, then the Prophet cancelled that marriage." (Bukhari Book #86, Hadith #99)
Proof 3: Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas: A virgin came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father had married her against her will, so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) allowed her to exercise her choice. (Abu Dawud Book #11, Hadith #2091) (It is mentioned in Awn Al Mabood Commentary of Abu Dawud “This hadith is powerful Hasan”)
Comment: The lie of agniveer is exposed when he said “she is just an object which can be accepted and rejected”
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This is already proven that Woman can decide regarding her husband that to live with him or to leave him with valid reasons, Keeping a side his bad comments let us see the main theme of his accusation, he quoted 2:230, In Islam marriage is not the game of toys, so that you can give divorce and marry again, give divorce and marry again, i already quoted Ibne Kathir “Previously, the man used to divorce his wife and then take her back even if he had divorced her a hundred separate times. Thereafter, Allah revealed the following Ayah (2:229) that made the divorce only thrice. So there was now a reversible divorce and an irreversible final divorce”(end quote)
Divorcing women three times in one sitting is Prohibited, see the proof
Mahmood bin Lubayd (ra) narrates that the Prophet (Peace be upon him) was informed that a man divorced his wife with three pronouncements all-together, at this (The Prophet) became very angry, he stood up and said: Is the book of Allah being mocked at in my presence? Until one person stood and said O Allah’s Apostle should I not kill him? [Sunnan Nasai’i, Volume No. 2, Page No. 181]
2ndly There is no Divorce in intense Anger, Proof for this is Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no divorce and no freeing of slaves when it is done by force or in a state of intense anger.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 2046; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’, 2047)
and lastly Nikah at Tehleel (pre-planned/intentional Marriage that I will marry you and then I will divorce you after one or two nights is Prohibited and adultery), see the evidences here: http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/109245/
Comment: In Islam the criteria is divorce is beautiful, a divorce will happen in three months, after that if she wants to marry again then with mutual consent they(husband and wife) can marry agin, if divorce happens again and after idda(prescribed period) both decide to marry again, they can marry gain but after that if they divorce third time then Qur`an says it is final you can not marry again unless woman marries other person (without making plan before marriage that I will divorce you after spending a night) and if he divorce her again by chance then she can marry previous husband again. see detail article here: http://www.systemoflife.com/articles/general/203-the-issue-of-triple-talaq
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This is full ayah
(231. And when you have divorced women and they have fulfilled the term of their prescribed period, either take them back on a reasonable basis or set them free on a reasonable basis. But do not take them back to hurt them, and whoever does that, then he has wronged himself. And treat not the verses (Laws) of Allah in jest, but remember Allah's favors on you (i.e., Islam), and that which He has sent down to you of the Book (i.e., the Qur'an) and Al-Hikmah (the Prophet's Sunnah ـ legal ways ـ Islamic jurisprudence) whereby He instructs you. And fear Allah, and know that Allah is All-Aware of everything).
Ibne Kathir Commented: This is a command from Allah to men that when one of them divorces his wife with a reversible divorce, he should treat her kindly. So when her term of `Iddah (waiting period) nears its end, he either takes her back in a way that is better, including having witnesses that he has taken her back, and he lives with her with kindness. Or, he should release her after her `Iddah finishes and then kindly asks her to depart from his house, without disputing, fighting with her or using foul words.
Allah then said: (But do not take them back to hurt them,)
Ibn `Abbas, Mujahid, Masruq, Al-Hasan, Qatadah, Ad-Dahhak, Ar-Rabi` and Muqatil bin Hayyan said that a man used to divorce his wife, and when her `Iddah came near its end, he would take her back to harm her and to stop her from marrying someone else. He then divorced her and she would begin her `Iddah and when her `Iddah term neared its end, he would take her back again, so that the term of `Iddah would be prolonged for her. After that, Allah prohibited this practice. Allah has also threatened those who indulge in such practices, when He said;
(...and whoever does that, then he has wronged himself.) meaning, by defying Allah's commandments.(end quoted)
Comment: Agniveer said who are men to take them back and set her free? The answer is simple i.e. he is husband of wife. Again why agniveer creating fight between husband and wife? When Quran is at its best that do not harm women and do not take them back so that you(men) may harm them(women), live with them honourably etc. Regarding husband and wife rights see the answer to introduction of agniveer at start of this article.
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This is the full verse [002:233] The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling, but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mothers food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear. No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child, nor father on account of his child. And on the (fathers) heir is incumbent the like of that (which was incumbent on the father). If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no sin on them. And if you decide on a foster suckling-mother for your children, there is no sin on you, provided you pay (the mother) what you agreed (to give her) on reasonable basis. And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seer of what you do.) Muhammad Al-Hilali & Muhsin Khan
Ibne Kathir Commented: Ad-Dahhak commented, "If the husband divorces his wife, with whom he had a child, and she suckles that child, he is required to provide for the mother's expenses and clothes within reason.''
Allah said: (No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child,) meaning, the mother should not decline to rear her child to harm its father. The mother does not have the right to refrain from suckling the child after giving birth, unless she suckles him/her the milk that is necessary for his/her survival. Later on, she is allowed to give up custody of the child as long as she does not do that intending to harm the father. In addition, the father is not allowed to take the child from his mother to harm the mother. This is why Allah said:
(...nor father on account of his child.) meaning, by taking the child from its mother intending to harm the mother. This is the Tafsir of Mujahid, Qatadah, Ad-Dahhak, Az-Zuhri, As-Suddi, Ath-Thawri and Ibn Zayd, and others on this Ayah.
Allah then said: (And on the (father's) heir is incumbent the like of that (which was incumbent on the father).) meaning, by refraining from harming the relative (of the father, i.e., his infant), as Mujahid, Ash-Sha`bi and Ad-Dahhak stated.(end quote)
Ibne Kathir went on and said
(And if you decide on a foster suckling-mother for your children, there is no sin on you, provided you pay (the mother) what you agreed (to give her) on a reasonable basis.) meaning, if the mother and the father both agree that the father assumes custody of the child due to a circumstance that compels her or allows him to do so, then there is no sin in this case. Hence, the mother is allowed to give up the child and the father is allowed to assume custody of the child. The father should kindly give the mother her expenses for the previous period (during which she reared and suckled the child), and he should seek other women to suckle his child for monetary compensation.(end quote)
Comment: One can see commentary of agniveer and commentary of Qur`an by sahaba and students of sahaba. By the way he left this very famous hadith, let me quote for him
A Mother has 3 times more right over her children then the father
Proof: Saheeh Muslim Book 032, Number 6180:.Abu Huraira reported that a person came to Allah, 's Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said: Who among the people is most deserving of a fine treatment from my hand? He said: Your mother. He again said: Then who (is the next one)? He said: Again it is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Holy Prophet) said: Again, it is your mother. He (again) said: Then who? Thereupon he said: Then it is your father
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So what is the point in quoting this verse? See translation by Muhammad Al-Hilali & Muhsin Khan [002:236] There is no sin on you, if you divorce women while yet you have not touched (had sexual relation with) them, nor appointed unto them their Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage). But bestow on them ( a suitable gift), the rich according to his means, and the poor according to his means, a gift of reasonable amount is a duty on the doers of good.
Comment: There is nothing wrong in above ayah (or in any of the ayah)
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This Rule is also for men
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Shaykh Salih Al Munajjid said
Many women hasten to demand a divorce from their husbands for the least little argument, or if their husbands do not give them what they want of money. Some women may be egged on by troublemakers among their relatives or neighbours to challenge their husbands with provocative words such as: “If you were a real man, you would divorce me!” The dire results of divorce are well known: breakdown of the family and children roaming the streets. A person may come to regret divorce when it is too late. For all these reasons and others, the Sharee’ah wisely prohibited such actions. Thawbaan (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce with no sound reason will be deprived of smelling the fragrance of Paradise.” (Reported by Ahmad, 5.277; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 2703).
‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Woman who ask for divorce and women who contend unnecessarily with their husbands are hypocrites.”(Reported by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 17/339; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 1934). But if there is a sound reason, such as the husband abandoning prayer, drinking or taking drugs, or forcing his wife to do something haraam, or oppressing her and making her suffer by denying her the rights granted to her by Islaam, and he does not listen to advice to mend his ways, then in this case there is nothing wrong with a woman seeking divorce for her own sake and for the sake of her religion.[Muharamat Prohibitions that are taken too lightly, Chapter Asking one’s husband for a divorce for no legitimate reason, English Translation Book by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid]
Comment: Again Husband and wife have to take care and listen to each other, In whole of the article Agniveer tried to create disputes between husband and wife.
See also
a) http://www.answering-christianity.com/divorce_abuse.htm
b) http://www.zawaj.com/articles/divorce_laws.html
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Above is nothing but a blatant lie, I Challenge him to quote the chain of the hadeeth with authentications plus authentic reference, Otherwise he is already proven liar before and we will prove him liar again and again INSHA`ALLAH, see what actually happened regarding Marriage of Zainab Ra
a) http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/abul-kasem/220-refuting-muhammad-kept-his-daughterin-law-without-marriage
and regarding Vitamin argument see the reply here: b) http://islamqa.com/en/ref/146329/
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See replies in same article on the issue of “Divorce and women rights” from point no: 28 to 32
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http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1125407868541
"What is the punishment for rape in Christianity and in Islam?" article.
http://www.answering-christianity.com/que10.htm
Comment: Please tell us regarding the punishment of Rape in Veda.
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http://islamqa.com/en/ref/286/
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Again a lie Shaykh Waleed al-Firyaan said
A woman has the right to ask for divorce when her husband mistreats her in a way that she cannot stand and cannot bear with patience, or if he falls short in his obligatory spending on her, or if he is someone who indulges in these evil actions – if she thinks that leaving him is in her best interests and will protect her commitment to Islam and her chastity. Source: http://islamqa.com/en/ref/9481/
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Already replied in point no: 22 and 23 of this article.
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For Hijaab see this article
http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/answering-islam-website/212-the-tyranny-of-men-over-women
Secondly he lied again if she wears a normal dress in public, she deserves lashes. For how many times will you lie agniveer? And secondly, Can you please tell us what is normal dress? Tight Jeans+ T-Shirts, Skirts,Shalwar Kameez, Sarhee with showing belly, sarhee without showing belly, Bikinis or what? For a Muslim Lady wearing Hijab is Normal and for a Christian Nones wearing Hijab is normal.
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Polygamy in Islam
http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/answering-islam-website/213-polygamy
Counter Question: In the last century, Swami Dayanand Saraswati had claimed to have written a commentary free from defects in the interpretation, of the ancient commentators on the 'Vedas.' Dayanand had not only accepted the prevalence of 'Niyog' but also on the basic of 'smritis' (codes of traditional Hindu laws), discussed 'Niyog' in great detail in the language of the 'Veda mantras' (Vedic hymns). According to him there was a law that a woman or a man could have sexual intercourse with eleven persons. If no child was born from the one, then a woman could go to another. If even then she was unable to beget a child, then she could go to the third and so on till she had intercourse with eleven men (Dayanand's commentary on Rig Veda, 10/85/45).
Woman was sometimes even forced to have sexual intercourse with men in the custom of 'Niyog'. 'Devtas, Rishis, Munis' and 'Brahmins' used to participate in 'Niyog' (see 'Mahabharata Aadi Parv; chapters 64,95,103, 104).
Comment: So a woman or a man could have sexual intercourse with eleven persons.
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Mutah is Prohibited
http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/abul-kasem/222-refuting-prophet-muhammad-approved-prostitution
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Again see the divorce section of this article.
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Refutation VII: Fewer seats for women in Allah's Paradise
http://www.systemoflife.com/answering-islamophobes/answering-islam-website/211-fewer-seats-for-women-in-allahs-paradise
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He is talking about without evidence like an atheist who has no scripture to follow, But let us give him references of Vedas.
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His frustration is clear, Alhumdulillah more women are accepting Islam then men, The more Islamophobics are doing propaganda, the more women are accepting. So keep doing this act and invite women to Islam, Thank you agniveer.
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Above is nothing more then blah blah!
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No comments! It is nothing but begging, lastly I want to quote Few verses from Veda
In the Vedas wherever special prayers have been made for children, they have always been for sons. Nowhere is a prayer or charm recited to be granted a daughter. For exmaple,
1. O Bounteous Indra, make this bride blest in her sons and fortunate. Vouchsafe to her ten sons, and make her husband the eleventh man. [Rigved Mandal 10, Sookt 85, Mantra 45]
2. This is thy Soma draught, O bright Âditya: take delight therein. To this mine utterance, O ye men, give credence, what good the man and wife obtain by praying: A manly son is born and gathers riches, and thrives for ever sinless in the dwelling. [Yajurved Adhyay 8, Mantra 5]
3. Fathers, bestow on me a babe, a boy enwreathed with lotuses, so that there may be here a man. [Yajurved Adhyay 2, Mantra 33]
All prayers are for being granted a boy and none for a girl.
Speaking of marriage Swami Dayanad Saraswati says,
"In Sanskrit a daughter is called duhitri (from Du - distant, Hit - good), because the marriage of a girl to a man who comes from a distant country or distant part of the same country is productive of good.
"If the bride's people do not live very far from her husband's home, there is a possibility of her parents becoming poor, as whenever she visits her parents, they will have to give her something or other by the way of a present." [Satyarth Prakash Chapter 4, The advantages and disadvantages of distant and near marriages, Page 85]
See the article by Brother Mushafiq Sultan Women and the Vedic Dharma http://www.islamhinduism.com/responses/answering-agniveer/29-women-and-the-vedic-dharma
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